I'm in a similar situation too but mine is somehow different. I'm also married for 2yrs now i love my husband so much hence we got married after sometime he started misbehaving probably cos i didn't have a job then.(even though i was engaged with some other things so i wouldn't be idle and look lazy).
He treats me like trash, talk about his other female friends all d time, giving them more attention etc. I managed to swallow all that. As if that wasn't enof he picks on me unnecessarily, finds fault in nothing. My husband who is supposed to be my best friend became or is a stranger to me. The bond is no longer that strong.
Which woman wld be happy to see her man exchanging nude pix wid anoda lady?
He does all that and in his small mind he thinks i know nothin about it. Feeling like a player and funny enof whn we were dating he never showed any signs of all dese nasty attitudes trust me i wldnt have even tot of even getting married to him. Luckily for me i got a good paying job smwhere in lagos and i was happy that at least i have a friend now(my job) smtin id look forward to every day.
I started work, things were going on fine until i met this young charming guy (my age mate) who lends me the listening ear n all. He is fun with a great sense of humour. We talk for long hours everyday even have dates outside the office, we flirt a lot (no sex) we are very good friends in fact people always think we are an item.
now im so so happy n joyful cos i know i have someone to lean on. Now d tables av turned around and my 'dear husband' is beginning to feel bad.
The long and short is: the men are the ones who push us to the wall. You feel you can do all the nasty things and expect us to take it? We are humans pls... if u cannot remain faithful then pls n pls stay single! dnt make us go out.
Ladies pls dnt sit there and say tradition forbids this or that... make urself happy u have only one life dnt live it for ur husband it shld be mutual. sorry to say if u die in silence. he wouldn't even wait one day b4 hooking up anoda lady. im not saying u shld go sleeping around, jst dnt let it get to u go out have friends n be happy (just like me now)
I started work, things were going on fine until i met this young charming guy (my age mate) who lends me the listening ear n all. He is fun with a great sense of humour. We talk for long hours everyday even have dates outside the office, we flirt a lot (no sex) we are very good friends in fact people always think we are an item.
now im so so happy n joyful cos i know i have someone to lean on. Now d tables av turned around and my 'dear husband' is beginning to feel bad.
The long and short is: the men are the ones who push us to the wall. You feel you can do all the nasty things and expect us to take it? We are humans pls... if u cannot remain faithful then pls n pls stay single! dnt make us go out.
Ladies pls dnt sit there and say tradition forbids this or that... make urself happy u have only one life dnt live it for ur husband it shld be mutual. sorry to say if u die in silence. he wouldn't even wait one day b4 hooking up anoda lady. im not saying u shld go sleeping around, jst dnt let it get to u go out have friends n be happy (just like me now)
The lady who wrote this trash and others like her are very stupid. A man can marry more than one wife and women are suppose to respect their husband.....get it into ur head.
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@ Larry you have never talked sense in all your write ups.Better grow up
Delete@ Larry you have never talked sense in all your write ups.Better grow up
DeleteHow abt divorcing this man,then u can go ahead and be happy ever after with ur new man,if there is any such thing!
DeleteWhy didn't d man divorce her while he was catchung all d fun?and for Larry,u stil believe dat women are slaves right?slaves dat can be trampled upon by any man? Dat no longer exists cos our today women work their ass out to pAy kids fees,and to assist in paying rent.they are no more d liability they used to be.so d earlier men get to treat dem well,d beta.am not in support of adultery but every woman deserves to be hapi and if d husband is d type who tinks his wife is a slave,I wil rather she find her happiness else where
DeleteLarry no bi so now, It is a situation that one needs wisdom to handle if you are a woman will you sound like that???? Every body should pray for the right person with good understanding that will understand him/her,no matter what happens no one will cheat on each other. Bubble G.
ReplyDeleteProstitution and Adultery runs in your blood writer! You'r married, got a job and meeting someone charming of your age. To be serious you'r entangled in that your married, go and make it work,cos your actions are going to blame God for making you a woman. Stop eating and drinking with a man that is not your husband and go and focus on your married good or bad if you like this one you call your friend now, just and go a nd live with him, you will discover man are same.
ReplyDeleteI agree with u lady, what is tradition, or even the church, the traditionalists do even worst things. Thanks to DNA. And church, forget it, look at the so called men of God who lost their wives, i bet u these women were in pains cos where husband is here and there in the name of gospel at the same time eyeing other ladies. When they lost their wives not up to one year u see them remarrying saying is the will of God to do it, whereas is the women that they have been eyeing. Why am i say these, i dont say women should jump from one man to another cos of sex but have someone you can talk with oposite sex. Even in medical they will tell u.
ReplyDeleteLike mother like daughter. She is true reflection of her mother, I sorry for your father.
ReplyDeleteThe writer of this story ia an ASHAWO proper.Its almost impossable to turn ashowo into a house wife.My suggestion to her is to move to Italy where she can become full time prostitude.Men just be carefull who you get marry to bicos d majorities of these ladies are not ready 4 house wife commitment.Oloshi buruku.
ReplyDeleteLady your a complete fool your article doesnt show your reasonable.I believe your husband see something negative in you that made him to look outside.Please stop posting things like this it doesnt make sense.
ReplyDeleteMadam, I would suggest you confront your hubby and talk to him about what he's doing, let him know you are very unhappy with the way he is treating you. There is something called emotional infidelity, go google it. U are cheating too period......don't even say you haven't had sex with him, all an cheating. Sort it out with you hubby if you really love him like you stated. I am a girl, not yet married though, but I believe in communication. Even though it's sometimes had to forgive, you need to to try. May God help us all when it comes to matters of the heart. All the best.
ReplyDeleteThis woman is a cheap slut you are here to corrupt gals abi? God will punish you and your mouth nonsense.tell me the relationship a woman and man will be having without ultimate sexual sin? what and what would a woman will be talking with her male friend ? thunder fire your mouth there for coming to this site to corrupt gals or probably in your kingdom they asked you to go and hunt for followers so you wanna use this opportunity to find them on this site goat you have failed. infact gals this woman is not married and will never marry cos she is a demon. do not listen to her cos she is a member of 666 ooo pls be aware oooo
ReplyDeleteIf i see who post this message here. I will go and put her in kpanti lagos. you are right my brother ukaegbu. she is a demon looking for members ! nonsense.
ReplyDeletePls i know that woman she is a prostitute.She is working in Abuja big babes hotel as a prostitute so pls no one should mind her cos she wants every girls to behave like her as her life is in comer. i had she got hiv even now.
ReplyDeleteMr olu is there any pastor in Nigeria that has 4 private Jets? Pls raise the issue on your site if any exisit lets send him a message pls. greedy people.
ReplyDeleteOdinaka,Why are you worried about d pastor with 4 private jet?Any body can buy a private jet if he or she can afford it.Na poorverty de worry you as you will die in poorverty.Try to be worry about d politicians who are looting d country and leave private citizen alone.
DeleteB4 u judge others,pls judge urself.she is right,bt mi dear pray 4 divine intervention.
ReplyDeleteGod bless u
Just tell us u are runs gal not married woman in Ashewo tin in ur blood
ReplyDeleteTo hell wit all d men who r calling dat woman a slut. I'm stunned 2 see so many of u r still wit caveman mentality. Its a new world guys...fuck ur wife up she fucks u up too. Thank God 4 civilization.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 06:54,You are a goat without a brain 4 making such statement.You d one still in cave.You are a Bastard idiot.
DeleteTwo wrongs can never make it right. The writer has answered her own question, said "her husband was loving and nice before they got married" just like this colleague in her office is now. Its a vicious circle, once she marries the colleague she will soon find out he is not different. The key to a good marriage is communication. Talk to your husband, find common ground, agree on do and donts, most especially see and treat him like a king and he will make his queen. . . Marriage can be a bed of roses with perseverance and understanding...The3rdEye
ReplyDeleteHahaha, woman, do not be deceived; that same young will turn around tomorrow to become worse than your husband. Stick to your husband, pray always for his change. NJC
ReplyDeleteLook lady, all u are saying is just an excuse to carry out what is part of u , adherent in u.So u have been pretending all this while. By having that confidence to started behving the way u are now, shows that u are capable of handling ur man the way u claimed he did to u.Assuming if both of u position were; u having a good job and he not. U attitude is not coincident but what u are and ur man behaviour towards u before u job is only a loophole for things in u, that is known to u or not.u CANNOT BE WHAT U ARE NOT OVER NIGHT
ReplyDelete@larry, I pity d woman that wuld marry u or is married to you. She will obviously be treated like a slave just the way your pathetic father treated your mum like a SLAVE that she really truly is. Learn to grow up and live happily. So u fink dis woman wuld sit dwn n cry around d house just like ur mother did? Loool no wayy. She suld have fun jhor. Wise woman. N for other calling her ashewo, she's not. She only wanted to teach her husband a lesson n be happy. She did not ave sex with the guy #period
ReplyDeleteNormally, I am not quick to comment on some issues because if you do not know the whole story, it is not right to take a stand or judge anybody. I do not and will never blame the lady in question as most of us will do worse if we are placed in the same position.
ReplyDeleteI have a similar case a man who pretends to be a Christian yet always gets himself entangled with women and into pornographic. This was not exhibited during courtship and all but after marriage and at every point in time he is entangled with one lady or the other and the way he denies about them when confronted even with evidence is amazing. I am human too a woman that needs affection. I have tried to hold myself from letting go despite pressure from various men. They might not mean well but they make you feel loved and important as the man cannot go on having his way and expecting you to take it like that.