A lot of the posts I have shared on this blog on celibacy and abstinence, both for personal or religious reasons, have been mostly focused on women. Someone sent me a Dear Myne post, asking 'how to find true love' as she is celibate.
Another sent in a comment that some men who will accept to abstain from sex with their women are often not interesting.
The articles I have written on the issue are more middle of the road, taking both genders into account, either as singles, or as people in a relationship. There is the post on tips for young singles and couples who want to remain celibate. And then there was the controversial discussion that followed my views on premarital sex and the mature single.
One question that hasn't been really tackled here, and which I found while looking through the search phrases for my blog is the title of this post. Are men willing to wait till marriage?
I know for certain that some men are, the question may be, where are they and are they enough?
One could be glib and say, go to church and you'll find the celibate men, but this may not necessarily be true. A lot of Christian men, even in church, are having sex either with fellow church members or with non-Christians. So one has to decide what they are looking for, self control is the common denominator if you ask me. Whether in church or out, I say there are men willing to wait for sex till marriage.
Since it seems it's mostly women that are worried about the celibacy issue, I have one suggestion. Don't be so hung up on your abstinence that it defines you and every relationship you go into. Relax a bit, talk about other things, be rounded and versatile, find things to do that will get your out of the house or room and active. That way, maybe before you know it, you and your beau would have bonded and he is ready to wait for you and follow you anywhere.
Source: Romance Meets Life

Why should men wait till after marriage? all this girls dey wait to ask for money? Abeg na #Team50/50
ReplyDelete@sam.true talk!Gbam!
ReplyDeleteThere are men who can wait . Yes, there are such men but they are of two types which are : those with STRONG MORAL principle ; and those that are TRUELY born again.
ReplyDeleteyou mean impotent
Delete@Sam, lol, no be by force really, everybody with im own, who want wait make e wait, who no fit wait make im do im thing.
ReplyDeletea beg me i fit wait o after marriage which level am still virgin.seyi
ReplyDeleteNo reasonable man will buy a pair of shoe without trying it on.It is very stupid to marry a woman without trying her in bed.Sex is a must b4 marriage unless d guy is gay.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous 11 u mus b an igbo man,sure no doubt abt it,
ReplyDeleteSex before marraige is not allowed in any culture or religion in Nigeria society my brothers nd sisters but only Yorubas dose it mostly nd igbos tribes so stay away frm it.
ReplyDeleteSex before marriage is not encouraged in the Bible. We must therefore respect God by abstaining. Any man or woman who cannot wait is not fit for a husband or wife. Reason is that, there is a 70% chance of doing it with someone else after marriage. Discipline is the watch word...resist the temptation and you'd be better for it!
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