Do you think this woman has the right to complain? Read on...
My marriage ended in 2008 after 9 years and four kids because my ex and I just couldn't make it work. The best part of it all was that we managed to remain friends after we parted ways. We see each other often because of our kids and over the years we've become quite close.
If you see us together you would never guess we were divorced. I never thought exes could be friends but my relationship with mine has proven me wrong. But there's a problem now.My ex husband met a lady 8 months ago and his attitude totally changed after then. He doesn't come to the house as often as he used to, doesn't see his kids as often as he used to, doesn't call me anymore..and when he eventually shows up at my house all he talks about is her.
He's moved her into his home, bought her a Mercedes and taken her on two romantic trips abroad, all in 8 months.
What am I complaining about, you may wonder?
Well I was with him for 13 years and gave him four children and he never ever for once took me on a romantic trip abroad. Not once in 13 years.
Just two nights ago, he told me that he's never loved anyone as much as he loves this woman and is planning to pop the question this valentine.
I was with him for 13 years, 4 years dating and 9 years married yet he said he's never loved anyone as much as he loves this woman he met [just] 8 months ago?
That's how it rolls. During your time with him u were only interesting in having kids and getting old. But the new babe knows how to get him crazy on bed without kids yet....so who will u blame? Yourself! Ella
ReplyDeleteHe's not just a wrong husband but a stupid man unless that other lady has used charm on him. mtschew men and their ways
ReplyDeleteMadam both of u are to blame for allowing the devil to scarter ur home after four kids. u guys dont know how to pray or what? f*ck!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteChildren ar blessing from God. Four kidz really shows they ar sexually balance. Its a game of luck, while some women found favour in sight of their hubby some doesn't, its God nd destiny!marriage is a very sensitive union,one has to understand his or her spouse v well.BIBi
ReplyDeleteGo on ur kneeels madam.start Praying.Destiny child
ReplyDeleteYou were not a good wife dats y he left u. period!
ReplyDeleteI keep seeing new reasons why u shouldn't be friends with your ex!! If they weren't friends she wouldn't know this much and won't be feeling hurt like this! Madam, make sure he's not spending money for your children's fees on her biko. #icantshout
ReplyDeleteLove is of the heart.But many people don't know about it.Living with a man for twenty years its not a guarantee that he loves you.School for thought
ReplyDeleteWhy divoce him in d ist place, every marriage has it up & down, u should have make it work rather than seperations after four kids, it seems u still love him but sorry u have lost him, u did not pray when u surposed.
ReplyDeleteyou cannot eat your cake and have it,you are divorced from the man so why dont you move on and focus on having a relationship ?
ReplyDeletethis is what happens when africans imbibe western culture and feminist ideas of divorcing after an argument the man was coming to your house all these years after your divorce but your pride kept you from expressing yourself to him in nigeria where many ladies are looking for husbands..
the new woman has qualities which you did not posses that the man was managing while with you so he is right i wish them a happy married life and i hope you have learnt patience and humility with this experience i pray you will find another person although it will be very difficult even if you are a billionaire unless you are going to buy a husband
move on
ReplyDeleteForget about ur ex-husband and what he is doing for a girl. if u know u are sexy go out their and get a man that will do same for u and be happy again. Ms K
ReplyDeleteMadam am sure will understand my point after readin my tex. Did u knw dat dere ar tins evry man admire ln evry woman? Nd did u find out wat ur husband want? Am sure datz wat his seen ln dat lady rit nw (kbk)
ReplyDeleteHaba...Were you expecting to re-marry him abi want him to stay single 4 d rest of his life?Move on with your life and look 4 another man who will love you and take you on romatic vacation.Make sure you take proper care of ur self by taking bath daily and keep ur toto clean.Good luck to you in looking d right guy.
ReplyDeleteYou were not a good house wife that's why he dumped your dirty ugly ass.Go ahead and look 4 another husband and leave your ex to enjoy his life with d new girl friend.Hope you learn your lesson.Try take a bath three times a day instead of once a week and wash that your smelling toto with veniger and alum.Good luck to your ugly second hand ass.
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ReplyDeleteWhy is everybody here assuming that bcos you are married automatically you are in love? This is not always the case… bcos you are dating someone does not mean you are in love with them either..
Obviously this is all J’s fault he was never really in love with the mother of his children yet he got married. My mom always said something”it is always better for a man to love a woman way more than a woman loves a man” this equals a lasting relationship/marriage.
J brother man, you need to be there for your kids enjoy you new babe but please don’t rub it in the face of the mother of your children as you know its going to take her some time to heal and her heart is still fragile.
I simply think these two people are unwise. What kept them as friends should have kept them married. This goes to show you that what sustains marriage is the believe that you have about it. Many people think that marriage is a joke. It is for better for worse!
ReplyDeleteThis issue of being jealous is because she is still in love with him. And like our people will say, once you have a child for somebody, your lives are robed together for life. Will that man not have a problem with this new relationship with 4 children from somebody else who is still jealous over him. I think he should stop the adventure and rebuild his broken marriage. Once this novelty wears off, will he not have problems with this new woman again?Mscheeww
You need to move on in your best interest, it would not be healthy for you to nurse heartache on someone you have divorced,if you believe, love can still be found by you again, you also need to forgive and forget yourself of your past mistakes.
ReplyDeleteMadam u need to pray heard in other to bring ur luv back, wat if dis new lady use charm on ur husband, u need a serious help
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