I lost my virginity a few years back during my service year. Before then I had vowed to keep myself for my husband, but I had a boyfriend then who eventually forced himself on me. I wont actually call it rape, because I blame myself for putting myself in such situation. He knew how much I wanted to keep myself, he still took advantage of my weak moment.
This is an action I will say I regret in my life, but I have no option than to move on with my life. I will like to state here that after that first time, no man has touched me.
Now the issue is that I will be getting married in two months time, but my husband to be (not the one who disvirgined me) thinks I am a virgin. Please I do not want to be misunderstood, I have never told him anything about it, but I don't understand how or why he assumed I am (may be because I appear to be a good girl).
Anytime he talks about it, I just try to avoid the topic. It has been difficult for me and I am confused about the situation, because I cant bring myself to telling him the truth. Do I just go ahead to tell him the truth, dont tell him at all or tell him after our wedding?
Anytime he talks about it, I just try to avoid the topic. It has been difficult for me and I am confused about the situation, because I cant bring myself to telling him the truth. Do I just go ahead to tell him the truth, dont tell him at all or tell him after our wedding?
Please yours responses will be appreciated.
The trust is that u created an impression for him that u are a virgin and that's why he wants to marry u.... So tell him the truth that u have been sleeping around and stop pretending. nonsense!
ReplyDeleteLARRY
Larry, u re stupid.. I pity ur women ...
DeleteJust tell him all about it and dont hid any. Only the truth can set u free. Dont be afraid.
ReplyDeletewho among u ladies is sincere, confess ur sin and let the innocent guy kw that u are a shameless girl.
ReplyDeletePig...
DeleteJust tell him, before marriage. the earlier the better.
ReplyDeleteI CAN SEE U HEADING FOR AN EARLY DIVORCE IF U DON'T TELL HIM ABOUT IT NOW.
ReplyDeleteTELL HIM YR PAST
ReplyDeletejst tell him the truth tell him how it happened and also remember 2 tell him dat it happened jst once ok am sure he will still marry u alrite i wish u all the best my dear @ larry if u dont know wat 2 say pls jst keep ur dirty hole u call mouth jst
ReplyDeleteit is wrong for u to hide sensitive matters like this area of life and finance.it crumbles marriage.would it not be worse if he discovers u r no more a vigin and then divorce u the following day?ow glorious wld it be if u tell him now,he thinks about it,gets over it and then tells u well that doesnt stop my love for you than u pretending to be holy and untouched then he discoveres then,if he doesnt divorce you he wld never ever believe u again in life no matter how u try.
ReplyDeletebut if u dont mind to get divorced then u can go ahead and keep hiding the truth but be rest assured,he would find out but by then u cannever convince him it was only once,fear God and put urself in his position??????????????????????????????????????????????????
You are very stupid by giving him the impression that you are a virgin and denying him of sex always whereas you have been promiscuous without him knowing jumping from one man to another.
ReplyDeleteNow look at your situation.
Tell him or not he will still find out.
You are hanging between balance.
By telling him, your morale is dissipated
By not telling him until he finds out makes you a promiscuous lady.
I repeat you are hanging on a balance with no trust in you.
Epitomising my contribution here, you are Ashawo
Joseph
Life is like a puzzle, until the whole puzzle is fixed together, you cannot get the true picture. Most life is made of little things. You get out of life of what you put into it. If you want a successfull life, life of goods peace and of contentment, you hav to work for it. Having said all this, let your husband to know everything abt you. Dont give him fake assumptions, tell him the truth. With that, you hav build unbroken trust between you and your husband. Goodluck!
ReplyDeleteForget about all these mugus talking nonsence/trash.Please keep ur secret to your self and wash your pussy/toto properly with ALUM and he will never find out.Make sure you don't use no vaseline b4 sex so that you can bleed a little bit.But I gues your so called boyfriend may be GAY bicos not 2 many real men want to wait till marriage b4 sex.D majority of real men want to have sex b4 marriage.So just be careful bicos you may be dating a guy guy.Good luck to you.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk Dr.She may be dating a gay guy.No real man will buy a pair of sheos without trying then on.
DeleteVirgin or no Disvirgin, what is the difference between the virgin bride and the disvirgined bride , the virgin has had no sexual encounter and has no baggage from a past relationships or relationships.In addition the virgin has no soul tie with any ex-boyfriend but in the case of the disvirgined woman she has previous experience in terms of sexual intercourse of which their may be one or more soul ties and some baggage from from her past relationships. You have to tell pastor to pray for you and it may do you good to let your fiance know that you have had sex before. Any true genuine relationship involves sincerity, openness committment and trust, hidding this from you fiance may hurt his believe that you trust him and may arouse undue suspicion about your personal moral values/standards, if the man truly loves you he will take you for who you are not what your past was and what you did .on the other hand go and do virginoplasty if you can afford the cost of medically restoring your hymen tissue.
ReplyDeleteif he wants to marry just because you are a virgin, then, he does not worth your love. Tell him and allow him to take his decison. If he decides to walk away it means he is a conditional lover and will not be a good husband when u get to the thick of marriage.
ReplyDeleteNo need to tell him, how sure are you he will know you are not virgin, just browse him on the first d and give it to him like you dont know the value of it, he will forget wether u are V or not. Al-Amin.
ReplyDeleteTruth is the way out of this problem.EOB
ReplyDeleteJust let him fuck you in your anus so that he can be d first person in d anus abi u don fuck 4 anus b4?If not no difference.Good luck.
ReplyDeleteFind the most comorting moment dat wont freak him out wen he finds out the truth. Do tell him the truth before ur wedding to avoid disaster.
ReplyDeleteiT TAKES WISDOM IF HE TRULY LOVES U WIT OR WITOUT UR HYMEN WILL NOT BE AN ISSUE....bUT Y NOT FIRST SPENT SOME TIME ALONE WIT HIM AND ASK HIM WAT MAKES HIM LOVE U/ RATHER WANT TO SETTLE FOR U AS A WIFE
ReplyDelete2)IF ANY STRINGS IS ATTACHED TO IS LOVE FOR U
3) WAT GAVE HIM THE IMPRESSION THAT YOU RE A VIRGIN ,AS WELL DO U ALSO THINK HE HIMSELF IS A VIRGIN
4)U DONT HAVE A BAD PAST...SO COME OUT TO HIM NOWWW...REFUSE TO CARRY ON WIT THE WEDDING PLANS,UNTILL THIS IS TRASHED OUT
5)BUILD YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH TRUST
WISHING U THE VERY BEST
God bless u dear...
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