As one of the most sought-after actresses in Nollywood, Mercy Aigbe needs no formal introduction. She’s one of the top rated actresses who has paid her dues in the industry.
But she suffered a lot in the hands of mother-in-law in her first marriage and shared some of the sad memories in this chat with Showtime Celebrity. Excerpt:
So what were those mistakes you made in the last one that you wouldn’t want to repeat in this one?
So what were those mistakes you made in the last one that you wouldn’t want to repeat in this one?
It’s not like I’m trying to sound holy but, I didn’t make any mistake. I just feel it was meant to be like that. I had a mother-in-law who didn’t like where I come from. She didn’t like the fact that her son didn’t marry a lady from their village. She made me go through hell. At a point when I couldn’t take it any more, I left the marriage.
So you wouldn’t blame those ladies who wish their mother-in-laws were dead before they got married?
I swear I wouldn’t blame them. If I think back to what I went through, I wouldn’t pray for anyone to go through such because I went through hell in the hands of that woman. And for me to have woken up one day and decided to leave, it wasn’t easy because I was young and tried my best to please her. But she wasn’t pleased. I went out of my way to learn their language, learn how to cook different dishes just to please her but she didn’t budge.
So what did your ex-husband do about it?
At first, he actually fought it but some women have a strong hold on their sons. In the end, he obeyed her. He didn’t like it that I was leaving but he couldn’t hold me back at the same time because he wanted to please his mum. We had fought the battle for a long time and it wasn’t as if it would come to an end, I had to leave.
So you wouldn’t blame those ladies who wish their mother-in-laws were dead before they got married?
I swear I wouldn’t blame them. If I think back to what I went through, I wouldn’t pray for anyone to go through such because I went through hell in the hands of that woman. And for me to have woken up one day and decided to leave, it wasn’t easy because I was young and tried my best to please her. But she wasn’t pleased. I went out of my way to learn their language, learn how to cook different dishes just to please her but she didn’t budge.
So what did your ex-husband do about it?
At first, he actually fought it but some women have a strong hold on their sons. In the end, he obeyed her. He didn’t like it that I was leaving but he couldn’t hold me back at the same time because he wanted to please his mum. We had fought the battle for a long time and it wasn’t as if it would come to an end, I had to leave.
And hope u wont mind if your son's wife also prayed that u're dead before she gets married to him? Very stupid girl I must say. MRS OJ
ReplyDeleteMrs OJ a little bit of common sense is required before passing out or making comments. Every one is sure to get the result of whatever they do, if she is also going to be the kind of mother inlaw hers was then she shares the same fate and if she is not she has no reason to and as for U retract ur comments before posting. Gambari
DeleteBut let's be sincere some mother in laws are hellish
ReplyDeleteChristine
VERY SOON ALL OF YOU WILL BECOME MOTHER IN LAWS TOO AND DO NOT CRY IF THE SAME WISH IS METED TO YOU .
ReplyDeleteThat's to a mother who turns out to be the kind her mother in law was. Let's watch what we say
Delete@mrs OJ.why will you say that.If she's nice no problem.imagine going into a marriage you are not wanted,its hell,its not easy.every mother inlaw must learn to stop all this tribalism thing and instead focus on the personality of the girl.treat her like your own.And let the couples live their life.@tscute87
ReplyDeleteThank U ooo Tosan. Am sure the stupid Mrs OJ is very much replica of the mother inlaw she had. Awon iya maje ki omo jere. Ko ni da fun won
DeleteI love Mercy Aigbe.she's a nice person.
ReplyDeletehumm. But one day we all will become mother-in-laws. So..
ReplyDeleteIts very shameful that this bitch is blaming other people for her problem of not getting along with her husband family.I hope other young women/men wish her d same 2.Ajakuta mamomi.
ReplyDeleteIts with U that ur words should be very shameful off. The fact that U have a successful marriage does not mean that is how everyone else is. See fool calling someone a bitch, what are? Moron? Idiot? Ass hole? Dead sucker?silly ass or what? Arindin jati jati
DeleteAs for me no mother in law will be allowed to come stay wit me n my guy. let her remain in d village. Ms K
ReplyDeleteThat's why no reasonable man will marry u and stay single to do ashowa work 4 d rest of ur life.Oloshi buruku
DeleteEwo jati jati to n soro.
DeleteMs K swty, so also will u remain in the village wen ur tym cums.
ReplyDeleteNo one prays for a wicked, full of drama mum in law, we shldnt wish dem dead either, rather we shld pray they change n become darlings by the tym we get married to their sons.
they hav evry ryt to enjoy their sons too, u kno.
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She must have married a Yoruba man! Useless men! Mstcheeeeeeeew!
ReplyDeleteNo she was married to an igbo man and mind U yoruba men's parent dnt victimize their daugther inlaw as long as she is respectful
DeleteYoruba men are weak and always take their mother before their partner. Reason why you can't trust them or even call them men
ReplyDeleteYoruba men are weak and always take their mother before their partner. Reason why you can't trust them or even call them men
ReplyDeleteYoruba men are weak and always take their mother before their partner. Reason why you can't trust them or even call them men
ReplyDeleteThis Idiot called Mercy must die before any of her son's marry a wife, stupid girl, why your own mother didnt die before your blood brothers married their own wivies ?, i guess you come from inrresponsible family, for you to open ur dirty mouth and spit out such horrible statement, you will witness what you prayed for ur ex-husband mother in Jesus name.
ReplyDeleteSee fool talking like an imbecile. Godwin or what is that name U bear? Pray ur sisters not suffer the fate she suffered from the mother inlaw she had. If U truly knew what she went through, U won't talk like fool that u re now. Only a woman can talk of what she suffers from a devlish mother inlaw and not the vice versa. So mind ur tongue cos U could bite urself over what's not worth it devilwin
DeleteAbeg, who is this moda f***er called ismail cursing people and defending the stupid comments of a stupid spoilt brat.
DeleteYes mother in-laws can can e evil, but all depends on a weak husband and wife.
a wife can lay dow the law to her mother inlaw and ask her if she whould be happy for another woman to do similar to her daughter. She can also task her hubby to take control of his house and not be a punk to his mother. if all fais, pack your things, go to your parents until your hubby sees sense and willing to control his mother, ut not right to wish her death, after all, she will be a mother inlaw one day and who knows how she her daughter inlaw will accept her.
But for this fool ismail to be here cursing people and defending stupidity, shows where they come and their type of upbringing
I guess ur mother is a mother in law, she should die for her daughter in law's to peacefully marry ur brothers. Fool, how stupid can u be
ReplyDeleteThat's if her mother is as devilish as her mother inlaw was. How foolish can U also be mr / mrs anonymous. Moron
ReplyDeleteA friend of mine just drew my attention to dis blog! Pls disregard dis article cos I neva granted dis interview! Am going to make sure my lawyers get in touch wit dis blogger! D times of writing watever comes to people's minds is over! Enough is Enough! Thank u all
ReplyDeleteAnnon shut up!! i read d full interview somewhere and u were asked if u didnt blame ladies who wish such for mother in law and u said HONESTLY I WONT BLAME THEM. Abi na lie? Amara
ReplyDelete@amara u too shut up! Wats ur own sef! Why r u drinking panadol for anoda's person's headache? So now she isn't d one who said dat she dosent blame women who wish dere mother in law's dead? Now u say she was asked? Hmmmmmmm human beings am sure u r just a useless prostitute and u must be full of hate! Where u dere wen d girl granted d interview? So how sure r u dat she said it! Nigerians so full of hate! And dat why we can't grow in dis country! Cos everybody is so quick to pass judgement on others and they r so full of hate! If truly she didn't say it I encourage to sue d stupid bloggers ass and he should rot in Jail! We need to clean up Niger! And we should learn to love each other instead of always wanting to be judgemental at all times! And as for women who won't let dere daughter in laws rest dey should have a change of heart. Even though u gave birth to ur son, remember d boy has his own life to live. I watched a movie titled ' terrible sin' and I marvelled at how wicked some women can be. And whether u want to argue it or not dis movie r true to life. We should check ourselves instead of just coming here to pass insults on each other, Mscheeeeeeeeeeeeew!
ReplyDeletena waa mr or mrs anonymous, on the one hand you are talking about people coming here to curse and pass judgement and on the other you are doing the same by calling this amara .." am sure u r just a useless prostitute".
DeleteSo does 2 wrongs make a right?
Nigeria is a jungle where nothing works, no laws... it is run by rumours of he say she say.
I don't think the problem is mother inlaws, I blame the sons, who are not man enough to tell their mother ...oya behave in my house or carry ur things and go to your hubby house.
I also saw the movie you aliing about and a lot of blames goes to the son for not controlling the mother.
Any woman that pray for the death of her mother in law will never be mother in law to her own son. Because death should not be solution. Women are problem to themselves, you hadly hear that father in law cases like these. Therefore women should learn to act right. Why is husband not complaining about his own mother in law, is not as if the man did not see mistake from the woman but he tried to act in a mature way.
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