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A Married Woman's Confession: I Thought I Was Deceiving My Husband

"Hi readers, I just want to share my true life story with you so that you can learn from it. We are human beings, we make mistakes every day but it left for you to learn from your mistakes.

"My name is 'anonymous' I wont mention where I come from for security reasons. I met this guy in 2001 when I was writing WAEC, his name is GuyA. We fell in love.

"He was everything a woman would ask for; he is fair, handsome, intelligent and God fearing, he loved me so much, he shared the little he had with me, he was willing to do anything I ask for though he didn't have much because he was still in second year at university of Nigeria, Enugu campus.

"He did everything possible for me to gain admission into the university. I eventually gained admission in 2003 at Enugu State University of Science and Technology and graduated in 2007.

"I don't know what came over me. I had a fling with this guy named GuyB. Though I never loved him, but I became pregnant for him. I didn't know what to do, but terminating the pregnancy was not an option. I didn't want to lose GuyA. It was as if my world has crumbled.

"I didn't tell anybody not even my best friend because I never could tell what would happen if I did. I made a smart move by telling GuyA that I was pregnant for him.

"Of course, he believed me because he trusted me so much but I betrayed his love for me. He came to see my people, though my parents are dead.

"I eventually put to bed; a baby girl. This was in 2008. Do you know what my baby was exactly the carbon copy of GuyB; the guy I had a fling with?

"I was not surprise because I knew the pregnancy wasn't GuyA's but I thought the baby would've resembled me. Of course, I was wrong. GuyA accepted us even when he knew the baby does not look like him or me.

"Ever since, I have been dying in silence. My conscience kept killing me. At a point, I hated my own child seeing a picture of another man in her. My husband, GuyA loved her so much more than anything.

"In 2010, I had another baby boy for my husband. My joy knew no bounds. I was really happy, my husband was happy as well.

"In 2012, I had another baby boy for my husband, GuyA. Even at that, he loved my daughter more than her two biological sons. At a point, I became jealous but what can I do. I just couldn't bear it any more so I decided to give my life to Christ and beg God for forgiveness which I know he has done.

"This I did because I couldn't continue to die in silence. It was now for me to confess to my husband but how would I achieve that without breaking my home? I didn't want to loose my home, I loved my husband and my kids.

"He is a wonderful man but I betrayed him. I prayed and asked God to give me the strength to confess to him... On the set day, I first called him on phone to ask him if he would ever forgive me. He asked what I meant by that. He asked if I was alright and I said yes. He hanged up on me. I cried like a baby.

"When he came back from work that same day, I served him his dinner. After that, I went with him in the room and told him to forgive me that he should not punish our daughter for what she does not know about but punish me.

He Already Knew That He Is Not The Father Of Our Daughter:
"He asked again what I meant by that. I narrated everything that transpired between GuyB and I. To my greatest surprise, he dropped a bombshell. He said he knew all these years that he was not the biological father of our 4-year old daughter.

"I asked him if he knew about it and didn't bother to ask me? He said that he knew that someday I was going to tell him but he never knew it would come this soon.

"It was as if the ground should open and swallow me. I was so ashamed of my self that I bowed my face in tears but he cuddled me and said he'd forgiven me long ago. He said that we pray every day OUR FATHER FORGIVE US OUR SINS AS WE FORGIVE THOSE TRESPASS AGAINST US, why won't he forgive me?

"He said no one is perfect and that we make mistakes in life. He said that I was a nice person and that we have been through a lot in life. So, he cannot abandon me now that i needed him most. He told me that he could possibly throw me out so that people will laugh at me but he has always loved me.

"As for my daughter, as far as he is concerned, she is his daughter. He's has always seen her as one and that he will always love us. These were his words.

"I was short of words, all I could do was to cry and thank him and thank God for the kind of man he has given me because I know that no man would take that from any woman no matter what except by the special grace of God.

"I am now a happy person and I have given my life to Jesus Christ. We must learn how to confess our sins no matter what so that Satan will be put to shame and as well learn how to forgive.

"We now live in the UK. I also had my two boys in the UK."

Hmmm...indeed nothing is hidden under the sun. What an interesting story!!

40 comments:

  1. D husband must be an great man...how many men can do this? Mrs OJ

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  2. God Bless this man.

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  3. this man is simply an angel

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  4. Exactly! How many men can do this? But that will not make women take good men for granted, becos its not all ment that can tolerate it, It takes the special grace of God for someone to do this and also a born again person.

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  5. This is the kind of ending our film producers will have to introduce in their scripts. i like the way it all ended.

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  6. Woman, you kept this secret too long. Anyway, thank God for your courage to say the truth to your husband. Mr. Husband, you are a great man.

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  7. She's just lucky... I dont think I can take that rubbish because she knew what she was doing before going to open her legs for another man to enter. nonsense! kalu

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    1. Haba Kalu. U dey vex? So long as God has forgiven her! who are we not to forgive? Favour

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    2. Kalu since I hv been reading ur comment in this blog nothing good comes out of ur mouth only gibberish! What a moron u are!!! To err is human to forgive is divine! If my husband shld come with a child he had outside I will welcome the child and if he beg for forgiveness I will forgive him or who are we not to forgive wen God forgive us our sin every second of the day! Kalu always think b4 u comment don't just type what comes out of ur brain bcos its rubbish!!!

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    3. Abeg Kalu, stop posting. Na every time you dey vex me with your statements. Why are you so bitter?
      My sister, make sure you don't make the same mistake again and treat your husband like the best thing that can ever happen to you, he is Godsent; such men are rare.

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    4. I support Kalu 100%, if I were to be the guy, I would forgive her but I will never have anything intimate to do with her again in fact, I will give her emotional neglect.

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  8. she was just luck..
    infact tooo lucky!
    some men wold have killed her!

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  9. My dear, if i am watching Nigeria film, i will be suprised bcos the husband would have found chased her out and marry the househelp but am over suprised bcos this is reality and the fact that we still have that kind of guy in this world of today especially Nigeria. Thank God for u, very very happy for u.

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  10. This is a great matter but no matter what may happen there is a reason,and about the man is a gift for you from heaven.

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  11. This is God at work. There is nothing he cannot do, he makes d impossible 2 be possible 4 us. He is faithful & just 2 4give us our sins when we confess it. He is so merciful so loving & kind. To Him be all d glory...

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  12. @ kalu, you are right becs if nt God's intervention dis kind scinario can cause alot of damages 2 both party.Girls learn 2 be faithful,ok?

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  13. Dear God we need more men in our country who have such a pure heart. Thank God 4 savin ur marrage

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  14. Is good to have forgiven heart, I really appreciate the man a lot for expecting the woman back home, this is a greater lesson for all woman that waka about don't think becos this man forgive her wife and ur own will be like dat when it happen. Woman Woman Woman pls let's keep our self for our husband ooooooooo

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  15. This is nothing but True Love from the Man to His Woman despite all her shortcomings...She's just lucky!

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  16. Thank God oo.. I'm also suprise dat a Nigerian Man can acctually hv a heart of an Angel.. You n ur family are blessed my dear. @Kalu, ur the type of Men we read in newspapers erriDay dat kil thr wives in cold blood abi? See ur mouf thr! Mtttcceeewww. Odeh

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  17. For me, i will say that dis is great coz not every man will take it. knowin fully well long time that he was not de biological father and still make 2 baby guys with her, Guy you are de best...
    Edu

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  18. This man is most definitely not the typical Nigerian man.

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  19. Thank God for God's grace upon the man.

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  20. @kalu I pity d woman in ur life,but anyway a man like u can never head a home!!!!!alwayz postin rubbish

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  21. ℓ̊thank GOD 4 U̶̲̥̅̊ and U̶̲̥̅̊я̲̅ family if αℓℓ naija men were like dat with understanding hearts naija 4 don beta ooo @mr kalu life ȋ̝̊̅ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇ not ♓☺w. U̶̲̥̅̊  it everything ȋ̝̊̅ƨ̣̣̣̇̇̇ not abt violence pls take tinz easy and comment ωιтн sense.

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  22. MAKE UNA WAIT FIRST. SURE SAY NO BE OLU FAMOUS COMPOSE THIS TOUCHING STORY PASTE SO THAT WE GO HELP AM INTRODUCE MORE PEOPLE TO HIM PAGE??? THINK AM WELL, SENSE FIT DEY AM OH!!! ANYWAY, IF NA TRUE. MY DEAR I HAIL U PASS OR THE CAURAGE. NA ONLY JESUS FIT CAUSE THAT KIND THING TO HAPPEN. OGA I HAIL U FOR THE MIND AND CHRISTLY HEART WEY HIM GIVE YOU... BUT TRUST ME WHEN I SAY THE DEVIL CAN COME KNOCKING AGAIN AT ANYTIME. SO YOU HAVE TO HOLD ON TIGHTER THAN EVER AND HELP HER CROSS OVER............. WE LOVE YOU MAN.......... [email protected]

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  23. All u women wen don commit una ways no correct........thanking God! Una non well. Una non dey even talk of d pinki wen she grow.......women! Kfil

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  24. Mr kalu is d sole reason why i read people`s comment on each article, he makes the forum interesting with the way people are always hitting on every comment he makes.. Its a free world and he is entitled to his own opinion d same way we all are..... pls let d man be....

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  25. am happy for her like i have always said that all animal are not equal all men are not the same

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  26. am happy for her like i have always said that all animal are not equal all men are not the same

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  27. am happy for her like i have always said that all animal are not equal all men are not the same

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  28. Dat man is just like me.....i'm toooo kind hearted..lol

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  29. What a wonderful story, the Lord will surely see her through till the end!

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  30. I will forgive her, unwanted pregnancy's are mostly baby girl;which is where love lays.If you are real man,you see yourself loving that kid like no man bizness

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  31. From her story, she didint mention telling the real father he is the real father of the baby. She now born again and trying to make amend, doesnt she need to tell the real father about the baby? its not like he refused to father the child.. she was the one that took another man`s child to another man`s house..

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  32. From her story, she didint mention telling the Real father she was ever pregnant for him.. she is born again now and trying to make amend, doesnt she need to let the real father know he has a child with her? its not like he refused her and the pregnacy, i feel he has the right to know... everyone just thinking one way..

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  33. All Naija men are like dat. We are all angels. Only, me 4 do DNA every year for the other two children and change my last name to Kalu-a -Adopts. lol!

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  34. This is the kind of man I dream to become someday, this man has an understanding of the Times, that the bible talked about.

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  35. This man is a real gentleman , thank God for his life and kind of person

    www.naijabreakingnews.blogspot.com

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  36. Madam abeg go do Thanksgiving because you are extra extra lucky. Men like your husband are very scarce....

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