I’m in a serious crisis in my home and I need help to get myself out of this mess otherwise I will be thrown out of my matrimonial home by my husband.
Please I beg you keep my name secret. Trouble started for me few weeks back when I was travelling to the university I passed out from to clear some documents and ‘sort’ one of my lecturers whose course I didn’t really do well in.
I got to Abuja very late that night and I couldn’t get a bus to school due to the security situation, while trying to locate a small hotel where I can just spend the night I ran into my ex-guy who is now based in the city. He convinced me to pass the night in his place since he was single and lived in a two bedroom apartment, I accepted but when my husband called me I lied that I’ve gotten to school.
Later that night my ex came to my room and gave me a laptop as a gift, as if he knew I needed one badly. I was torched and one thing led to another and soon I was on top of him and we had great sex, I must admit. He dropped me at the park the next morning and on our way to Gwagwalada the bus was attacked and I lost the laptop and my bag with all my money.
I had to call my husband, not knowing that he had even confirmed that I didn’t get to school the previous night. He called me a prostitute and a liar. He said his friend saw me with a man leaving a hotel in Abuja city and that his friend even sent him a picture of us... I cried on the phone and begged him but he asked me to "go back to that man".
Now am back to Lagos but things are not ok at all, my friends have helped to beg him but he refused and I can’t involved my parents, I'm ashamed! Please I need Olufamous.com readers to help me out. In the last six weeks I’ve not had sex bcos my husband has refused to sleep with me.
What can I do to appease my husband?
My dear ur case is not different from those of some other women, it's difficult to control ur self wit ur ex in the same room... ur husband should take it easy. Ms K
ReplyDeleteHer husband to take it easy? - i'm sure if you were the husband you will do worse. so annoying... she knew what she was doing right from the start just like most of them. I hope she learnt her lesson against her next marriage.
DeleteDon't forget men cheat 2, jst ask God 4 forgiveness and move on with ur life
DeleteU made a terrible mistake to agree to spend the night in his place, other women should learn from ur lesson. Linda
ReplyDeletethank u linda!ur right.kc
DeleteSo where is that guy that gave u the so called great sex? He's probably giving another woman great sex....u fuck up big time!!
ReplyDeleteYou are nothing but a fool,sorry to say that,i think u are not due to marry and control ur emotions,if the man accepts her,who knows who she will be sleeping next with,the first boyfriend or the the one before she gets marry,fucking cheap slot.
ReplyDeletere u tellin us ur hubby can't afford u a laptop abi u rilly nid da tin @da instance,,,,sowi ur hubby final decision shu b ur end_point...gosh! self control sucks so gud
ReplyDeleteClap for yourself....you are a very good wife and a replica of the majority of women we have in Nigeria today. Kalu
ReplyDeleteOl wat I ll tal u iz dat u ar sick in d head 4 acceptin 2go2 ur X house,if I where ur houband I ll divoce u immidately cuz of ur stupidity. Put ur self in hiz shoe if u notice dat he slpt wit his X wat wuld u do. N pahaps u hv oredy no were ur X stays who nos u ll nt vcet him again. U jst fuck up n u mst b punish wit irrevocabl divoce!
ReplyDeleteWe all make mistake in one way or anoda, men do cheat 2 and their wives don't throw them out, any way in africa men are allowed to cheat and get away with it, but w/men don't, I no what she did was wrong but I'm sure even her husband is not clean, my dear jst ask God to forgive u and move on with ur life, and pls don't ever repeat such mistake again.
DeleteY women ar olwyz robbin sholders wit men? She confas n she cheated, she desav a punishment
DeleteIT'S NOTHING NEW, CAN UR HUSBAND SAY HE'S CLEAN?
ReplyDeleteENDURANCE
ur an idiot, pple like u send men 2 ealy grav, God we punish u 4 dat word.
Deletewhen u pay peanut,u hire monkey. she played with fire and got burnt. she should ask God for forgiveness first bcos of the adultory.then go ahead and beg her husband.may be...............
ReplyDeleteTry it again n he'll give you somethin greater. I can't even imagin my woman, i mean my girlfriend doing such. Couldn't you control your sexual feelings huh. Ok wit time he'll know you still mean much to him thats if you've been a good wife before now, he'll come for you ok. Joachims.
ReplyDeleteIts indiscipline on your part madam to agree to go to ur ex man's house and passed a night. I believe the judgement had already begun when you were attacked by hoodlums who took away your possessions including the laptop. I think you are materialistic and do not cherish your home. Am a woman and cannot see reasons with you. The bible is against what you did and scripture supports your husband to divorce you on the ground of adultery, should your husband prove holier than the word of God. Too too bad for you.
ReplyDeleteYou women and Fuck!!!...mostly you married women?? witi dey wrong with una?? face it my dear... for i cannot help you, b/c wen e dey sweet you i was not there. fist ask God 2 4gv u....Also ur hubby should know dt him self the fuck out side too....mk un work things out not...get out of the house and do what do best....kfil
ReplyDeleteYou are nothing but A BIG fool and a cheap chew gum, call girl known as prostitute. If you know what is good for you, just go back to that your ex that could keep you as his wife because he knows you not to be wife material.
ReplyDeleteOnce you married, you are to remain sacred for your husband alone, and distance all old boy friends.
Consider yourself to have loose your marriage, except if your husband is a coward, he can accept you to fuck on his head.
India 1.
i don't think ,,this is really...and if it is .....mehn..am very sowie for you as u have gone already.....you are a bad wife i must confess.why are you now asking for pple's advice..i don't think you derserve a good one...get out joooor..shiiiiiiiiiiiii.
ReplyDeleteIf i am your husband i wouldn't allow you to even enter my house, you are even talking of having sex with you, the one you had with your boy friends you should continued with it, because you love that your boyfriend than your husband, may be the way he normally have sex with you or the material things that you get from HIM. You don't deserved that name wife, you should be called prostitute. - FIFEN
ReplyDeleteEndurance or whatever you call your name, you are mad!!!
ReplyDeleteSee pepole raining abuse on her when they do worse
ReplyDeleteWhat u did is wrong but I'm sure even ur husband 2 is not clean, jst ask God to forgive u and move on,
DeleteAnd what a man can do a w/man can do better
ReplyDeleteSHE ALREADY KNOWS THAT WHAT SHE DID IS WRONG,,, SHE NEEDS SOLUTION
ReplyDeleteOmolara
Nana Umar,i respect ur contribution. Shit happens,we re all human n we re bound 2 make mistakes. If he doesn't wanna give u a second chance,just beg God 4 mercy,n move on wid ur life,bt pls dnt repeat d same mistake again,cos i'm pretty sure dat u learned 4rm ur error. Pls 4 those dat re commenting,if u dnt hav gud advice 2 offer,dnt condemn her,cos we re nt perfect ok?
ReplyDeleteInvite your Pastors and your father only and let them beg him 4 U. Something in me is telling me that he will 4give u, but pls don't ever underrate/undercut ur man again. May the good Lord have mercy on u.The only person that should condemn u is he who has never sin b4.
ReplyDeleteLet us face the facts, men have different of ways of handling issues because they are not emotionally endowed the same way. If your husband is the type who finds it hard to forgive and forget, I would advise you to leave him alone because he might just wake up one day and stab you to death. You knew what you were getting into so you deserve no mercy. For those of you trying to play smart by accusing the husband am sorry for you all, this Africa where a married woman belongs sorely to her husband besides the Bible supports divorce on the grounds of unfaithfulness so what are we saying here?
ReplyDeleteC me c wahala c'mon pple, what abt de idiot that her x who nos very well dat she is married and have no shame to invite someone's wife to spend a nite with him, he is more evil then she is, or it's bcs he is a man dat is y, lady my advice is leave ur husband alone and ask God almighty to 4giv u, we all make mistake, and pls if u manage to marry again make sure u never reapet such taboo again, as 4 dis one there is nothing u can to change wat happen, only God no how many chicks ur husband slept with,God is most forgiving, may he forgive us all ameen.
ReplyDeleteC mc wahala o, what abt de idiot dat her x who nos very well dat she is married and hav no shame to invite somebody's wife to his house, he is more evil den she is,or is't bcs he is a man dat is y no body is talkin abt him, lady my advice to u is leave ur so called husband alone and ask forginss 4rm God almighty, we all make mistake but pls in ur nxt marriage don't ever tink of such taboo, as 4 dis one dere is notin u can do 2 change wat hapen,only God no how many w/men ur husband slept with, may God 4giv us all ameen.
ReplyDeleteSee your mouth, You have a great Sex with him, My follow man is cool, if it is me i will take your bags out of my house. Ashawo like you
ReplyDeleteRegistered Ashi indeed, she have them all over, and where ever she goes, there must be an ex guy,hence its not only that guy that date her b4 she got married. She will always fuck them and ask for advise and say its a mistake. your husband gentle seff! if not you for dey hide ur mouth by now, because he suppose to delete 2 teeth from that mouth first. India 1.
Deletewhy her x did not get married with her?because he no that she is not a wife material that she is only good for sex!some women can easly be dicived!her x is a guy man and he knows her wick poit which is longertroght thats why he first gave her the laptop and get read of her,acording to her storry i think she is lying to us,to my own understanding,she have her x number and she poposely go there for sex and a day or 2days befor she traveld she ask her x for a laptop,thank God she even lost the laptop!vanity upon vanity,KC
ReplyDeleteMy dear xboyfriend fucker, u are a nothing but asha wo kobo kobo. I know u will go back 2 fuck that ur xboyfriend again, for that simple reason get a real life and rot in hell. Pls husband she will kill u if u 4give her ohhhhhhhh. Sheep fool, laptop my ass. Blue mafia
ReplyDeleteI don tired for dis kind forgive and forget thing wey some fools go dey talk in dis kind of situation. Is it by force to make comment? I believe that if you don't know what to say it's better you don't comment than to be writing silly things like forgive and forget. Meanwhile i believe than the lady never say the truth of the matter. I'm so sure that she (the lady) ve been communicating with the so call EX before they met again. The ex should ve bought the laptop because he knew she coming.
ReplyDeleteSo u mean say de x did not commit any sin or wat, y wil he invite a married w/man to his house, men are de one's alwys initiating sin bcs de no hw wick w/men are, as 4 me dat x is more evil and may God funish him 4 slpin wit pple's wives, ameen.
ReplyDeleteAs a mata of fact she has done a terrible fin.My take.
ReplyDelete1. What made her go to the guys place in d 1st instance? (Probably Financial issues-trying 2 save some funds)
2. Why accept the laptop? (Financial issues-ur ex still knows ur weak points)
3. Why did u sleep wif him? (He probably performs beta dn ur husband)
My Take.b4 u can b forgiven, u will need 2 prove urself worthy.
1. Sex wif ur husband 4 nw should b d last fin in ur mind.U've hurt his feelings and he feels deceived.
2.Ignore dose that say u should leave ur matrimonial home (u were given a test and u failed woefully.Try 2 scale thru d next hurdle.Endurance and patience 2 learn 2 stay without d sex 4 a while-believe me ur husband will respect u 4 dt.Even if he's still angry.
Botom line.Stay in ur home and pray 4 mercy and truly hv a change of heart-Dt's d recipe 4 victory)
BEST OF LUCK WITH THAT
Matrimonial home' or what do you call it? Do have any matrimonial home befor? You must be mad 4 your action! How could you have a sex with d most private thing in marriage with someone? Hmmn if i were him your for face judge and feel d consequencies of your action. Prostitud. Jibril makarfi
ReplyDeleteWhat is wrong in doing what men have been doing long long time, O men tink say na only dam sabi cheat, lady tank u 4 what u did, naso men de do 2, cheating is cheating, is time 4 women to show men say "what a man can do a woman also can do even better" jst yesterday my sister's husband brought a girl and fuck her on their bed no shame no apology, let that ur yeye husband fill de pain 2, I really like ur styke.
ReplyDeleteYou are simply not matured enough to have married and as a result, you do not deserve the assumed HUSBAND whom you never loved. quit him so that he can have a better life. While you continue your HIDE and SEEK game with ease; absolutely stress free bitch.
ReplyDelete1st of all, evri 1 has d ryt 2 choose. Wen ur ex bf invited u 2 his house, u cld easily hav sed no, bt life a fulish ship, u followed, u got 2 his house, he offered u a brandnew laptop(foolish girl), dont u knw nothingh goes 4 nothing? He offerd u a rum and laptop, u acceptd, he askd 4 sex, u acceptd, wen u cld av sed no and run 4 ur life. U r nw complaining ur husband did nt giv u sex? Tell me y he wont hesitate?, wen it took less dan an hour 4 ur exbf 2 av sex with u? God knws hw many men hav offered u something in exchange 4 sex. In dis world of std and hiv/aids. I ama woman and i dont blame d husband or d bf. If i am ur husband, i wont accept u back!
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