Our marriage is less than four years and my husband is already showing signs of someone who's tired of the woman he's living with. Most times he doesn't eat my food. I can't even remember the last time he made love to me as his wife, unless when he's drunk.
I hate having sex with a man that is drunk but unfortunately this is the only time my husband will consider having anything with him. This marriage is about to collapse because he has started beating me each time I refused to have sex with him when he's drunk.
My parents are old and in the village but his own parents do not really like me because I don't come from a wealthy family.... should I give him more time to see if he will change or I should move on with my life and my only child? I don't want to die!
Please Olufamous.com help me share my problems with your readers for advice.
My parents are old and in the village but his own parents do not really like me because I don't come from a wealthy family.... should I give him more time to see if he will change or I should move on with my life and my only child? I don't want to die!
Please Olufamous.com help me share my problems with your readers for advice.
May be u made a mistake by getting married to a man whose family do not love u, they might have poisoned his heart towards u
ReplyDeleteMarriage is for better for worse. Stay and make it work.
ReplyDeleteLARRY
You are joking ,the man has decided to make the poor lady a punching bag and you think she should wait till he sends her to the mortuary, please borrow some enpathy if you have none and stop being silly, the poor lady has opened up to cry for help , hence your utterances are unhelpful, gone are the days where women were biological robots , nowaday we have to sought things out differently, God help us.
DeleteU didn't design ur marriage so take it to the designer(GOD) to help u fix it. Ur knees are sharp than sword..
ReplyDeletePrayer changes things.
Secondly wealth is n't an excuse attitude is what matter's most.
He's ur husband and n't a drunk.. Reexamine urself u may hv do something wrong that has change his mind.
Woman are known to Build a house, this are your problems as you listed but remember, there is no problem without solution. most especially in the case where your Husband people didn't Appreciate you, what you need to do, put your self into prayer and your husband for the good of every thing. pls, don't cheat your Husband no matter the condition. things will come to normal if you keep patience.
ReplyDeleteOnce a man starts beating u it's over, move out and move on... Ms K
ReplyDeleteThat looks like an option but may not be the solution long term, if she divorces him what will be the long terms consequences, it may be hard for woman to start from scratch sometimes getting someone
DeleteRun for ur life b4 he beats u to deat. Ebere
ReplyDeleteThere is only one person that has answers to this problem and that person is God take it to him,its well.
ReplyDeleteYou seem to be a lovely woman but your husband seem to have psychological problems and insecurities deep seated in him, he has a past that appears to be catching up with him and does not know how to handle the reality , in addition he is anxious and worried and afraid of his future hence he does not seem to respect the power of your love and care.deep inside him ,he is crying for some form of authorirty and power the wrong way hence he has to get drunk to get himself to fantasy world so that he can beat you to assert his power ,the painful reality is that beating you only makes him a coward and a customized wimp and sissy of a man who can't confront the real problems contaminating his sense of decency and civility,In terms of he not eating your food ,do a research to re-evaluate the quality of your cooking and the type of meals that are likely to change his mood for good.on the other hand consider going on strike in lieu of the cooking and explain your concerns about why you are not cooking for him.In terms of the sex concern see a psychologist with a speciality in constructive adult based sex education and find out what is wrong.Spiritually speaking the adversary satan is never happy when a man and woman committ to be married hence whether you are christian, muslim,hindu, atheist, he will try set disunity because he is afraid of your success and well-doing long-term besides you being a model to others in a good sense does not make evil forces happy as they hate the course and progression of human -kind hence pray to God and fast ,see a well seasoned groomed and genuine woman or man of God to pray for you while you sought things out.Consider saving money for a proper holiday in a nice place when you are soughted and when things work out always keep working at things positively.It appears your husband needs Gods help.
ReplyDeleteWITH GOD, THIS CASE IS JUST AS SIMPLE, AS ABC. JUST SEND YOUR PETITION(S) TO GOD, AND YOU WILL SEE IT IS SOLVED FAST. TRY IT, AND YOU WILL SEE THE ALMIGHTY GOD AT WORK .
ReplyDeleteI think u shpuld just take it to God in prayers ohhh and he will fix it for you.is just too early to start comtemplating leaving ohhhh,the lord will help uuuu .it is well with u.
ReplyDeletePrayers can change every thing, including the heart of your lovely husband towards you. Try and read a book entitled "The Power of a Praying Wife". I have forgotten the author. But go to any christian book shop. And buy it for yourself, it is going to help you, I assure you. The wife, in that book, had the same experience as yours, she thought she could solve it by her strength but she failed. When she employed the prayer method, she did not only win the heart of her husband, but also won the heart of every good things that are needed for her home.
ReplyDeleteDon't even think to divorce him; this is because God hates divorce and you don't even know the next man you are going to meet.
Moreover, work on your character, if you know there are some lapses. We men, there are things that can make us to behave indifferent towards our wives. But the difference that exist between one man and the other is understanding and the ability to open up when offended. May be your husband is that type that doesn't open up when hurt. Develop your unique tactics, as you pray, to draw your husband closer to you. God bless you, and let Him see you through. - NJC.