They are also afraid because of the high mountain ladies have suddenly placed themselves on as no woman wants to date an average man any longer but are all interested in those with good cars, houses and lots of money. A man recently told me why he does not allow his girlfriends to come to his house. According to him, he doesn’t want a case where one of them will enter his house only for her to refuse leaving because of the beauty of the house and cars she will see.
Isn’t it surprising how single ladies now out-dress married women with good jobs whose husbands are very rich? You are not married because the single men around you are wondering if they will be able to meet up with your ever-demanding lifestyle. Even when they know they can afford it, what makes them believe you won’t take a walk tomorrow if anything goes wrong?
Another reason is that with your good job and salary, they are even afraid to come near you as they wouldn’t want to be turned down. I have a female colleague, a very pretty girl who lives in her own house and drives a posh car. She also has different businesses to show for it. Recently, I advised her to calm down a bit as friends I introduce her to who ordinarily would have gone for her, all run away after meeting her and come back to me with the same word, “Amara, this one go send me go village.”
Another reason you are going to grow old in your father’s house is this: You want a ready-made man instead of a growing man with vision. Are you aware that if you have not obtained favour from God, the man will decrease instead of increasing when you enter his house? Work on your character, the words that come from your mouth, your lifestyle, the way you carry yourself, the way you dress, the places you visit and then spend time trying to find favour before God because it’s only favour that can make your husband increase the moment you step into his life.
In fact, the moment a man proposes to you, there must be some positive movements in his finance if at all you have obtained favour... I always tell ladies that if by the age of 30 no man had asked to know if you are for sale, there is something wrong somewhere; its either spiritual or attitudinal. But the truth is that it is always more attitudinal than spiritual... This is the moment of truth and if at all you want to be delivered, your decision to deliver yourself is the first step to your breakthrough.
Culled and partly edited from an Article written by AMARA >
thanks Olu for this piece of info, it will help me a great deal. I wish i've gotten this before now, but all the same it's better late than never.
ReplyDeleteYou are doing a great job. Thanks.
Fiirst of all, no woman is for sale? wrong choice of word. The reason women are more single these days is much deeper than the all this shallow reasons you put up. I can't even begin to go into the details. But the point is that the world has long changed from centuries ago and it has affected both men and women in their lifestyles and in the way that they think. Media, Society... and all these things play a big part this issue. Women and Men as a whole don't know their places in society anymore, we have so many women trying to be so independent that you wonder why they even want a man. And you have men that get to sleep with as much women as they want that you wonder why they even want a wife. Everybody condemns the Traditional way but this is the price we have to pay. So Deal with it and stop placing blame. Yea times have changed and change is good, doesn't mean we should drop important values and morals by the way side. I just don' get it, some of us are so clueless that we don't even have what it takes to teach our children right from wrong anymore then u get upset when your son comes home with another man to marry. Meanwhile you start preaching tradition to him when it meant nothin to u all this while. so many things is life right now play a huge part in this single man/woman Drama... so talk about nipping it in d bud instead. Thanks
ReplyDeleteWoman of today dont have any manners all they want is Money Money Money...A man that will make them see the world at once....Trust no woman
ReplyDeletethe rate of unmarried youth[men & women] we have is becoming alarming, a lot of reason account for this; some of which have been outlined by the writer. but like he has said, i will love to agree that attitudinal factor on the side of the ladies is the reason for the delays.
ReplyDeleteon the part of the men, men because of our ego, will always want to have a good financial base before getting married, this has been responsible for men over 30 not been married.
It's amazing what runs through our minds...
ReplyDeleteIf a girl is trying to better herself, so as not to be "a liability", the man runs away. If she sits pretty and awaits her
"prince charming" the man still runs away from liability. What exactly do men want?!
Relationships are about support and strengthening each other. What kills it is selfishness.
If a relationship is devoid of sharing and outright giving (selflessness), then it's bound to be one-sided and unsatisfactory.
We ALWAYS KNOW what we want so no amount of theorising will cure us from SELFISHNESS because if it's a matter of excuses and reasons singles are not getting married, they abound, and by and large, it's a matter of CHOICE!
May God help us,d reasons re far many dan what u listd
ReplyDeletethank you very much.... but some ladies have 90%of what you have sand ....but most men are ruining away from responsibility ...... they want to make all the money ... b4 they get married .....God says who ever found a wife find fervor from God .......let them know is a promise from him...... so if u like make the money....an kick out of Gods will'....they are able to miss his the promise ....some kick ladies out bcos ..they still looking for money ....... God s time is still the best ......he knows thee from the womb..... after all they money the make ,they make the wrong choice in marriage ....is for both men an women ...no one is lift behind....... for i know am 85% of these qualities ......is only God that will help us out ..... my piece of advice is we should have it in mind when God remember you oh!!! my God nothing stops it ....for i have good heart ...but men want ladies that knows wots up.... that is problem they are having .... they want top ladies in town ...... a lady that earn over 100,000..... without consulting God. even we ladies .....see with God all things are possible .... know ur right as a child of God ....yes am 27years ......not yet married .....knowing that, there is time for every thing .....no time is too late for God ...b4 choosing a wife ...pls go to God first...whether u have money or not .....we have to be in the same channel with God ...lets come down and be real for once .....nothing last for ever...an no body is perfect expects almighty God....what have are all true life story.....we too pretend....an inpatient in life.......let give women and men impression that money is every thing..... you done a good job thank you .....
ReplyDeletehope my bf will read this..now he chasing me away to his life to marry a woman of your own country...lol
DeleteHMMMM!u"ve all said well,drs still thousands of issues not yet laid out dat prevents singles frm getin maried,dr is family issues,spiritual issues,sm kind f pastor telin u he/she aint d 1,only God can hlp us,giv us d grace 2 folow his will,to av a good marriage.Pls lets all do wat we av 2 do so as 2 av a clean home./marriage
ReplyDeleteWestern lifestyle (Right of a woman), many men don't want to get married, because of its troubles, women are becoming men, our traditions are put away (moral and cultural), if u meet a lady today, u can have sex with her immediately, in that case will u think of marrying such person?. i got married @ 27years when i discover my wife still a virgin @ 22yrs, our women do not have values again. western lifestyle
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