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TRUE CONFESSION: I Slept With Our Driver To Give My Husband A Child


I am not a loose woman. I am just a woman who loves her husband very much and didn’t want to lose him. I just did what I had to do to save my marriage even though I feel guilty sometimes.

It was not easy but I slept with my driver so that I could give my husband a child, but instead, God gave me twins, a boy and a girl...

I was married to Philip for eight years. We had no child. “The worst was that I never got pregnant even for a day.” His mother became so impatient that she started breathing down my neck as she gave me no breathing space at all. She moved in to live with us and practically made my life unbearable - in my matrimonial home. I cannot drink water and drop the cup because she must insult me. It got to a point that she stopped eating my food because, according to her, I should be feeding my children so that they would grow healthy and stronger and not her. “Monica, if you had children, you are supposed to be feeding them with all these food so that they would grow healthy and strong. I am getting old so I don’t need all these nonsense you call food. Take them away and give me grandchildren,” she would scream. She also stopped talking to me, however, the only time she talks to me is when she wants to insult me and remind me of how less a woman I was.

Philip and I love each other so much that he stood by me despite all his mother did or said to frustrate me to leave him. We visited different specialists and they all certified us medically alright. I have visited churches, held vigils and even fasted for days, drank various concoctions of varied colours and combinations all in the name of getting pregnant so that my mother-in-law can stop humiliating me yet I couldn’t get pregnant.

At a point, I stopped coming out of my bedroom because it was obvious my mother-in-law had vowed to frustrate me out of her son’s home. Most times, I just stayed in my bedroom and either cries, pray, think and then sleep off because I was scared of his mother confronting me. To make things worse, she sent away the house help because she said, “You don’t need any house help because there are no children to take care of. Take care of your house yourself and stop wasting my son’s hard earned money.”

It was just the three of us living at home, “God, I was always so terrified even when I hear her voice from a distance.” It is so agonizing to say this but my husband usually pleads with me to come out of the room and this makes him feel so sad especially those times I refuse because I don’t want to come face-to-face with his mother. When her troubles became too unbearable, Philip practically threw her out of the house just to make me feel safe and comfortable in my own home.

Even after she had left, I could still hear those insults in my head so I decided to take a bold step - I seduced and slept with our driver, Okon. Okon is a young man in his late 20’s. He is a graduate of Mechanical Engineering but because he could not get a good paying job, he opted to become a driver. I promised to get him a good job if he sleeps with me just once but I never disclosed the reason for this. 

However, Okon thought I just wanted to cheat on my husband with him. I planned it during my ovulation so that I could get pregnant, although it was not easy sleeping with another man. I knew I was betraying my husband but I saw it as a necessary action. After a month, I discovered that I was pregnant. So, as promised I got a job for Okon in a friend’s company where he started earning almost N150,000 per month. When I told Philip that I was pregnant, he was so excited. “Sweetheart, God has finally answered our prayers. I am pregnant,” I revealed.

When I was five months pregnant, he informed his mother and she immediately returned to the house. She pampered me like a baby and also took good care of me. I never wanted to do any scan but my mother-in-law insisted. When I finally did the scan, it showed I was pregnant with twins, a boy and a girl. My mother- in-law and husband were extremely happy while I felt much fulfilled. “God thank you for compensating me with a set of twins after eight years of barrenness,” I muttered.

When the twins were born, the girl took ill for some time. It took a while before she fully recovered after several treatments and this got me worried. Philip and I insisted that blood test be carried out on them to determine their blood group and genotype and then came the shocking revelation. The doctor informed us that although their blood groups are both A, however, their genotypes are AS for the girl and AA for the boy meanwhile Philip and I are both AA. I wanted the ground to open and swallow me up because I felt Philip would ask questions but to my surprise, he did not. He just said, “Sweetheart, lets go home. We have had quite a long day, you and my babies need to rest.”

Three months later, he held me closely and said, “Monica, don’t be scared. I don’t want to know who the father of the twins is. I know whatever you did, you did to save our marriage and I am very proud of you. I promise to always love you and my babies. I promise this will be a secret between us. I love you sweetheart. I know we will have our own children someday.” I wept as he wiped my tears with his hands.

I KNOW WHAT I DID WAS WRONG:
But at least my mother-in-law is extremely happy with me, that is all that matters. Although, everyone is happy but I feel guilty that I selfishly used an innocent man to achieve my aim. But before anybody judge me; just put yourself in my shoes and think for a moment what you will do?
Source: News Across

37 comments:

  1. Desperation has its consequences and u r going to have to live with this shame urself! There is no honour in what u did at all!

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  2. Your story is sympatetic but infidelity is infidelity. - Lekan.

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  3. It's good ur husband is understanding, train your children well and be happy. Life is too short!

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    1. Dr yerima iliya n25 June, 2012 19:55

      Since ur husband has 4 given u.no problem.remember jesus and de adultress.sin no more.

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  4. DESPIRATION IS NOT GOOD, I BLAME D MOTHER IN LAW THOU

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  5. Those children are bastards and you better take them to their real father b4 its too late for you. Stop deceiving yourself... Kalu

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    1. This Ibo boy wetin dey worry u sef??? Can someone make a mistake? mtscheeeeeeeee

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    2. Kalu, you dey craze. Ewu Gambia. Stop using this medium as a publicity seeking tool. STOP COMMENTING

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    3. Can we pls stp yapping Kalu? D boy wz born without brains so his prob is quite understandable.

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    4. Can we pls stp abusin Kalu? D boy has no brains

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  6. I have put my self in your shoes, is a very bad experience you have gone true but what you did is bad and you have no honour in this act. Remember that Bible condem Adultery you have sin both man eye and Jehovah. Onyeabuo

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  7. Talking is the most easiest tin to do..... Put ur self in her shoes.... From all scenerio, that man had known wat was wrong with him, but he refuse to tell de wife... Is dat gud? Mind u, if it is de wife dat is unable to conceive, i believ dat man would av sent her parkin. I tink wat dat woman did is not wrong at all..... Since she has proven a fact dat she can conceive and she is remorsfull of wat she did, fine and gud. In a worse case scenerio, let her seek for devores. Forget it, dat marraige can not work again.

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  8. I dont just kno wat to say ooooo becos i cant take it if is me oooo cos i want my own kids not someone else's child

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  9. For all d singles commeting here,better watch ur statement b4 saying anytin,dis can happen 2 any body in marriage in future,wat dis woman did was totally wrong,it might b dat God is testing their fath.some pple stay upto 20yrs,25yrs b4 bearing a child,but this woman went too far to do dis just bcos of a bad mother inlaw,but in any way let her beg God 4 forgivness,and since her husband stii luv's her,they should train the children & pray to God to also remember them 4 their own real child,cos dat okon wit #150 thousand salary now might be earning millions 2morow & come 2 claim d children if he find out he has children wit his ex madam,ordinary okon 2 chop witin en oga dey chop en wife,anytin can happen.

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  10. Everybody shuld very careful while contributing to this case. This woman took her time out to explain that she was a victim of circumstance, who am I to judge her and who are u all to judge her, who among you is jst perfect in this issue of man and woman. Let me tell you'all that man mit end up killing himself if nofin was not done...don't u'all see how sympathetic the man was to have acceded wif her wife on this sensitive issue...this is my advice mama twin, try and be happy, only u o don't go to any pastor o...hmm. Confess our sin to God and tell to pardon u, then tell God(Jehovah) to come into the situation Himself. If this is done wit a great faith my lady GOD will jst do wat His interest is in your case and u'll be free.. If HE has not condemn u, then nobody can ok?
    KingTopa

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    1. King tops, God bless u. Ur wisdom wil not be replaced with foolishness. People have decided to act God and judge others. Let him who has no sin cast d 1st stone. Shalom

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  11. She already knows that what she did was wrong. She's only battling with guilt. God is able to forgive her, so stop judging her pls.

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  12. Absolutely,i have no power to judge you on what you had done,but am taking the path of word of God which is against sexual immorality.Before God,your action is unjustifiable.It is completely against God's will for human race which closes or bridges man's gap with God.My advice to you is to meet your pastor,talk it over with him but mind you that the deeds has being done and worst of it is that it produces products(twins).may God see you through in Jesus name,amen

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  13. Sincerely, like is full of risks. Woman, although what you did in its original state was wrong but I have this good news for you: as long as your husband forgave you, you are free from any gulit and judgment.have you soon forgotten that your husband is your head as christ is your husbands head? If your husband has forgiven you, you are on right standing with God. What you've done isn't a sin anymore. That's what your critics don't understand--GRACE.

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  14. hmmmmmmmmmmm, God has plan for them

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  15. Sincerely speaking wht u did was wrong,since u have prayed 4 4giveness & ur husband knws abt it,just has GRACE said i personlly dnt think u should share it with another person,God & ur husband has 4giving u,so pls dnt do it again look after ur husband & ur kids,goodluck.

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  16. which mean the man of the house know that he can not pregnant a woman

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  17. If ur husband forgives u,al u need now is God's forgiveness.al those people condemnin know this 'u've done worse things'

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  18. No doubt what she did was wrong, but 4rm all indications it seems d man is impotent & has been hiding it from d woman, And her mother in-law is not helping matters at all. Ok let me ask u guyz, if it were 2 be dat d woman has no womb and d man gets to know, will he accept 2 remain childless?

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  19. Pls read the story again & again b4 commenting.From wat d woman said dat they've been 2 hospital & d Doctor confirm them medically fit,so how come d man is impotent whereas d Doctor didn't say so.abi do u guys want d man 2 sleep wit their housegirl & impregenant her(if their is any)b4 u ll understand his not impotent.abeg pack well.

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    1. You have said it [email protected] din't read well b4 commenting.But the issue is,bad is bad...let's call a spade a spade....This attitude will be hurting the woman for the rest of her life even as her husband has forgiven her as she said (am saying this cos i understand that she did that just for a purpose).Am wishing her well and quick recovery from the trauma she landed herself in the name of wanting a child.

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  20. hmmmmmm,what a pity.may GOD forgive you.

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  21. THE HUSBAND IS NOT IMPOTENT SO SHE SHOULD HAVE WAITED FOR THE RIGHT TIME

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  22. Its obvios d husband is awere dat he cnt impregnate so y not com out clear,caus if he cn he wnt take it so easy.my opion is dat we shld pray,not2 b in dis kind of situation,its easier judging frm outside d situation.God is the onlyone dat cn uphold their marridge.pray for them,since its between the two party now.femii

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  23. u r lucky 2 ve a husband dat is so understanding. It tuk him 3months 2 make d decision 2 4giv u, dat shows his a matured man wit integrity. He reminds me of joseph Jesus' father in d bible. I just respect d principles nd soundnes of ur husband. As 4 u, God's grace is sufficient 4 u. Dennis

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  24. Are U married to ur mother-in-law or ur hubby? Moreover,she was sent out of ur house b4 U did that rubbish. Keep praying God no dey tire to forgive buh meanwhile return the kids to their Papa.

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  25. pastor bhadmostaiwo26 June, 2012 14:08

    Whoever has not sinned b4 should be the first to throw the stone..... says Our Lord Jesus Christ. I Salute the courage of this woman. Madam, go and sin no more. God has 4given you. The children are not bastards, they are children of God.His blood has cleansed you. Shalom.

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  26. AT THE END WHO WINS AND WHO LOOSE, IS IT YOU OR UR MOTHER-INLAW. UR HUSBAND IS HIDING SOMETHING FROM U, ASK HIM. MAY GOD SHOW YOU HIS MERCY, AMEN

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  27. If your husband did not complain and he understand dat u did it all for love so be it,you must know dat you $ your husband can't have children no matter d specialist,con caution or anything u used will remain nil.

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  28. I read every single comment here. It is obvious that most commentators are you and many more are actually baby Christians. Remember, God looketh on the heart, but we look on the flesh. God saw her pain and eventual remorse even before she committed this sin. Do we know if it was God who sent the mother-in-law there to try her faith? Where there is no sin, there is no need of forgiveness. She who is forgiven much Loveth much. We are all sinners and so cannot be good judges of another's servant. She is a servant of the Most High God, the righteous judge. God hasn't changed yet. He forgave David who did worse. He has also forgiven our sister here. No need blaming the husband, Okon who was seduced, mother-in-law, who feared she would die someday leaving a son "too stupid or scared" to have children of his own no matter what it takes or the wife who lived in hell and torment of her mother-in-law who became a sweet woman as soon as she grandchildren she believed were her's. So, she had no hidden agenda. They all acted out of fear. Here, Psalm 23 is apt. The LORD is our Sheperd. They all need to conquer their fears and trust God more. Wise counsel, don't go to no pastor at all, lest they take advantage of you, turn your confession in a ridiculous sermon or even make you live a life of hellish guilt. This is a great lesson to us all and may God help us all. Amen and Amen.

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  29. D children r nt bastards,dey hv a father,bsides dat d husband is a good man bt its obvious d fault was 4rm him he wuld hv bin bold enof 2 tel d wife nd mother dan he was importent.God wil stil give him his own.

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  30. Many people adopt a baby without knowing the baby's real parents. In this case the couple are sure of of the history of their baby. If those who adopt a child will cherish him/her why won't this couple cherish d baby given to them by God? I only advise that they reward Okon (their former driver handsomely). Thanks.

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