I got married and packed into his duplex. After our marriage, I got pregnant and had twins (2boys). My husband was very happy. 3 years later, I had another set of twin boys. He could not contain his excitement, he told me, "Ifeyinwa thank u for showing the world that I am a man, I will luv u till I die" and I replied, 'I will luv u too till death do us part'.
He later opened a big supermarket for me. I was devoted and dedicated to my home, we were living in peace until 2 years ago when the first wife came back, I welcomed her and even asked my husband to forgive her. Within 6months our peaceful house turned to something else.
The first wife's behaviour changed towards me, she started calling me a prostitute, husband snatcher and other unprintable names. That same month our husband became sick and his blood pressure became high. This woman started making life unbearable for me, she insisted the house belonged to she and my husband. I told my husband to rent another house for us but he refused.
In 2011, my husband lost all he had cos his business partner ran away with his money, I took over the expenses in the house, he was grateful.
But his first wife wouldn't care. She was never happy with me and my children, she said the house was built when she was living with him then dat I should go with my bastard children. I am 30yrs now, she is 47 while my husband is 54yrs. I gave my husband money to start another business and told him of my plans to rent a house so peace would reign but he refused, he started crying like baby.
The next day his BP raised to 320. Everything got so bad... his first wife would threaten to stab me at any slightest provocation. We do the same business but she's not happy about my progress cos I'm miles ahead of her. She has never for one day bought anything in the house, I've been footing the bills.
Things got very bad and I went to see my Pastor for prayers. He advised me to quit the marriage because, according to him, my husband belongs to his first wife.
My Question is: What will happen to my husband, my 4 children and I? How will I break dis news to my husband? I love him so much but what about his condition?
His first wife really hates my children and she's manipulating my husband to sell the duplex because of his health and financial problems.
Pls I need help urgently, what is my fate in this family?
The first wife's behaviour changed towards me, she started calling me a prostitute, husband snatcher and other unprintable names. That same month our husband became sick and his blood pressure became high. This woman started making life unbearable for me, she insisted the house belonged to she and my husband. I told my husband to rent another house for us but he refused.
In 2011, my husband lost all he had cos his business partner ran away with his money, I took over the expenses in the house, he was grateful.
But his first wife wouldn't care. She was never happy with me and my children, she said the house was built when she was living with him then dat I should go with my bastard children. I am 30yrs now, she is 47 while my husband is 54yrs. I gave my husband money to start another business and told him of my plans to rent a house so peace would reign but he refused, he started crying like baby.
The next day his BP raised to 320. Everything got so bad... his first wife would threaten to stab me at any slightest provocation. We do the same business but she's not happy about my progress cos I'm miles ahead of her. She has never for one day bought anything in the house, I've been footing the bills.
Things got very bad and I went to see my Pastor for prayers. He advised me to quit the marriage because, according to him, my husband belongs to his first wife.
My Question is: What will happen to my husband, my 4 children and I? How will I break dis news to my husband? I love him so much but what about his condition?
His first wife really hates my children and she's manipulating my husband to sell the duplex because of his health and financial problems.
Pls I need help urgently, what is my fate in this family?
If u want to tell us the truth u would have said u snatched another woman's husband... that is what happened. Women of nowadays. Kalu
ReplyDeleteGod punish yu nd yur warped sense σƑ reasoning, if dis story z bin narrated by a̷ man yu'd say 'women shud undastnd ϑα† a man is entitled to more dan one wife in naija' same yu z calling dis woman a̷ husbnd snatcher..useless double standard punk.oponu oshi
DeleteHahahahahah.... omo you dey f--king para oo... See wetin you do Kalu like those pple be part of your family... u no sey kalu dey always open mouth like Osorfia
DeleteTake the pastor's advice and move out, u do not belong their
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Since the woman left b4 ur husband married u it simply means that she's not interested in that marriage but return for selfish reasons. Fight for the future of ur children
ReplyDeleteDt man go die soon oh.....u @ 30...you can get married again.......leaving would not b the best if truly he did the right things, but if it is life thrng. pls run!!!! and keep in touch with him. Call a family meeting oh mk dey know weit dey go on......kfil
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ReplyDeleteThe pastor who asks you to pack out is not a good counselor! If you can rent your own affordable apartment do so for your own safety and that of your kids, latter when the evil cloud (1st Wife) leave Ur husband he will return back to you. Something makes the first wife become x-wife that will still repeat itself again. The woman is evil, and she has no hold on you and dose twins. She is like Satan; she came back in disguise to finish her evil plan. Pray for your husband for GOD to rescue him from the EVIL WOMAN CALLED FIRST WIFE... NO ONE SHOULD SUPPORT EVIL. Although I do not support 2nd wife, conditions make things happened right! The woman who has come to make your life count has not done evil. Will the first wife swear during her bn away before her husband got married now with 4kids no man touched her? She is jealous because she could not fulfill her WOMANHOOD. On less she repent more terrible state awaits her
DeleteMany pastors has destroy homes and if you allow this pastor to destroy your home,you will blame no one but yourself.The first wife can not represent the family because your husband no longer love him.What you will pray for is a change of heart from your husband to divorce his first wife since she don't want to live in peace or you can call your family to discus how you can get another house until your husband send her packing.
ReplyDeleteIS, ACORDING 2 CHRISTIAN DOCTRINS, PASTOR CAN NOT JUST TELL YOU ON HIS OWN TO QUIT FRM THE HOUSE, THAT IS WHAT THE BIBLE SAID NOT THE PASTOR.PLS QUIT JEJE & ALLOW PEACE 2 REN.SALKA NOAH.
ReplyDeleteMy sister you are biblically in adulterous relationship. The man rightfully belongs to the women. Take to your pastor's advice and quit.
ReplyDeleteWhich bible,old or new testament,adulterous marriage my YANSH
ReplyDeleteThe Holy Bible says so! If you marry a man that is first married to another woman you are living in adultery. It sounds harsh but that is the word of God. If you obey now, God will bless you for there is blessing in obedience.
DeleteThe best advice that i can give you is to pack out of the house in the first place did the man told you that he divorced the woman and shows you the letter of divorced,did the man pay your dowry,did the man family known you as their wife. if answer to this questions is NO then there are fire on the mountain.Please for Christ sake pack out and pray to God he will intervene for you if the man belong to you you will laugh at the end it very painful but that is the best solution for your predicament.
ReplyDeleteMy dear those that are asking you to leave are like the Jews who wanted to stone the prostitute to death but when Christ asked that he that has not sin b4 shd cast the 1st stone,they all drop their stone and left.Your husband married you when his first wife left him and you have 4 kids for him,that is ur home let no man,whether pastor or not deceive you to leave your home. However your husband i am sorry to say,is a weak and confuse man because he should ensure you and his kids are protected from his evil 1st wife,dosnt he know where the courts are,in my place is even a taboo for awoman to park away from the husband's house and come back after so many years,who was she leaving with all those years,and how are we sure she was not commiting adultry?
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Deletealways remember that two queen in the kitchen always bring trouble...By what im reading on this blog i feel scared already for my self...I can't bare to leave in a same roof with other woman sleeping with my husband..Is this a tradition of Nigerian or it is honored by your Family Code and Civil Code that man can marry more than one woman? I really don't have Idea..L.A
ReplyDeleteWhy only now the pastor advised her to leave or quit this so called relationship?Ever since he knows about it until they got 4 children.The first wife dont have shame coz after vomiting the food she go and swallow it again...if what she wants was the property she can ask lawyer to do it..
ReplyDeleteIs better 4 u̶̲̥̅̊ 2 leave d huZ be4 d 1st wife kill u̶̲̥̅̊ and ur kids
ReplyDeleteThe best you should do is talk to your house that the best will be for you to rent an apartment elsewhere and move out with the kids. Make him know you are still there for him. That will be better than u quitting the marriage entirely. Formally, the wife with which the man wedded is his wife, but that does'nt mean that other wives are not recognised.
ReplyDeleteDON'T FOLLOW YOUR PASTOR'S ADVICE, SINCE YOU STILL LOVE HIM FOLLOW YOUR MINED, HE HAS NEVER DIVORCED YOU, HE IS STILL YOURS, THIS IS WHEN HE NEEDS YOU MOST IN HIS LIFE, THIS IS THE ACTUAL TIME THAT PROVES "FOR BETTER FOR WOST". HE HAS NEVER TURNED HIS BACK OFF YOU. AND MOREOVER, IF YOU LEAVES HIM YOU WILL BE EXPOSED TO MORE TEMPTATIONS, OK, LEAVING, TO GO AND STAY OR LEAVE WITH WHO? TO LEAVE ALONE LIKE A DIVORCEE? OR TO GO AND LEAVE WITH ANOTHER MAN? REMEMBER, WHEN YOU LEAVE HIM YOU WILL EXPOSE YOURSELF FOR MEN TO START ASKING YOU OUT, AND THAT WILL SERVE AS A BAD INFLUENCE TO YOUR CHILDREN.
ReplyDeleteHOWEVER, YOUR HUSBAND MADE A HUGE MISTAKE FOR ACCEPTING THE FIRST WIFE BACK, TRY TO BE WISE TO PROTECT YOUR HUSBAND FROM THAT EVIL WOMAN SHE WANTS TO DESTROY HIM AND RENDER YOUR CHILDREN FATHERLESS AND YOU A WIDOW. THE WISE THING FOR NOW, IS TO GO AND LOOK FOR ANOTHER APARTMENT TO PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR CHILDREN, YOU CAN BE VISITING YOUR HUSBAND TO TAKE CARE OF HIS SITUATION IF THE FIRST WIFE ALLOWS YOU, AS FOR DIVORCING HIM DON'T IT'S NOT WISE. OUR KINS MEN GAVE SOME ADAGE... "TWO TREES PLANTED TOGETHER CAN'T AVOID BRUSHING AGAINST EACH OTHER" AND "TWELVE PLOTS OF LAND CAN'T ACCOMMODATE TWO ENEMIES".
PLEASE FOR YOUR GOOD, STOP GOING TO THAT CHURCH AND THE PASTOR WHO TOLD YOU TO DIVORCE YOUR HUSBAND, HE DOESN'T HAVE GOOD PLANS FOR YOUR FAMILY.
THAT'S WHY PASTORS ARE ONE OF THE GREATEST PROBLEMS NIGERIA IS HAVING TODAY.
Ah! Ah! Which type of pastor is dat ok ok may be he is planing to get d double twins baby boys from d woman too abi? Dont bleive him he is not God as God give you husband he wl returen peace to your hause and take care of your kids and husband ok ? Tank God you even have a bussines to do. Its me jibril makarfi
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