I've been crying over the way things are going in my relationship that I'm considering calling it quit with this guy, even thou I really love him, very very much. Please I don't want my name to be disclosed for obvious reasons. I've dated my guy for three years now.
Age is no longer on my side, I'm almost 30 and I think I need to do something to make this guy serious with our wedding plans. May be if I get pregnant with his baby he will get serious for marriage.
I left my job recently and relocated to the state where he resides to stay with him and try to get another job and also carry out my plan of getting pregnant. My problem is that I have spent about nine weeks in his house and this guy hasn't made effort to make love to me... Even when I try to get him in the mood he will say we should wait until we get married.
My guy is not a very religious person so am suspecting something may be wrong. He doesn't eat at home like he used to. Most time he will go to his parents house and eat there before coming home. He doesn't take me out, we don't even have meaningful discussions.
One thing I love about this guy is that he's very good in bed. He knows how to give it to a woman and make her cry for more. Before now when I used to visit him I find it difficult to go back because of the good sex I get from him. But all that has changed since I permanently relocated to his place.
Please I need constructive help from Olufamous.com readers on this issue. Is it that my guy is seeing another lady or what? I also notice that his parents don't visit him regular again since I moved in. What could be wrong, please somebody help me.
My guy is not a very religious person so am suspecting something may be wrong. He doesn't eat at home like he used to. Most time he will go to his parents house and eat there before coming home. He doesn't take me out, we don't even have meaningful discussions.
One thing I love about this guy is that he's very good in bed. He knows how to give it to a woman and make her cry for more. Before now when I used to visit him I find it difficult to go back because of the good sex I get from him. But all that has changed since I permanently relocated to his place.
Please I need constructive help from Olufamous.com readers on this issue. Is it that my guy is seeing another lady or what? I also notice that his parents don't visit him regular again since I moved in. What could be wrong, please somebody help me.
He has discovered that you're a desperado like many of you are so he's looking for how to do away wit you... WALE
ReplyDeleteBabe u're slacking, there is what is called woman power just use it....go nude before him and force him to do it. Do allow him to slip from u o. Ms K
ReplyDeleteYOU'RE A BAD GIRL OR WOMAN
DeleteMaybe u guys we go 4 test or wth deid u tink?
DeleteI don't think u should be proud having sex outisde wedlock, if not that u two have been doing it b4 I would have said u're being stupid...
ReplyDeleteYou sounded desperite, and besides moving in with him is wrong. That is why he is avoiding you and your food so that you don't force him into marrage.
ReplyDeleteYou lady of nowadays you don't pray you doesn't go to church to seek the face of God just listing to yourself Because you are old or considering the age you are right now you want to force the guy into married that he is not willing to embark on yet.
ReplyDeletemy advice for you right now is to move out of the house and before you do just that first call the guy or take him out to a cool place and let him tell you what he think about you if he doesn't open up to you give him sometime by relocating to your house for the meantime and i sure by then he will reply you.
When will some ladies ever learn to stop being prostitute? That is what u are... Kalu
ReplyDeleteYawnnnnnnnnnnnn... tales by the monnlight......Olufamous tell us a bed time story
ReplyDeleteWhy not just offer your advise to the ladies in bad relationship?
DeleteYou words could be of help to the person in question, you can't tell
@Muyiwa, take time out and you will see this type of story in various format on the net. All one has to do is change a few lines here and there and it makes it look like something new / genuine.
DeleteGet out of his house first,you have sold yourself so cheaply to him,its very clear you are the one that is in lust he is not in love with you,go and pray and seek the face of God for a correct marriage,cos you might live to regret your decision to move in to a stranger who never paid your dowry or got approval from your parents to be their son in law.
ReplyDeleteyou are very stupid, forcing a man to marry you because he is good in bed. the hand writing is boldly written on the wall, what else do you want?. go back to your father's house and wait for your right man(pray to God for your real man to come)that guy is not your husband. you want to die on a man because of "dick" not the character of the man. i wish you luck. (maty).
ReplyDeleteYou ladies will never learn. Can you listen to yourself because he is good in bed, you want to marry him abi? Have read of that guy who stabbed his wife to death because he never loved her in the first place, but she forced him into marriage. You better pack out and start your life afresh. He never loved you. simple
ReplyDeleteIs obvious he did not need you as a wife because of your bad plans like to get pregnant,marriage and your so call sex. Let him live his life as he wish ok dont tie him down with your serpent ideal
ReplyDeleteHe has sensed that you only loved him for sex. Leave him alone since there are no binding children yet. Go for another man who would love you for your sex urge, sex-drive or sex-love.
ReplyDeleteI will send Olu my contact address and I will give it to u to compensate for all ur lonely nnites. Get laid first and decide if u want to contnue with him or not!
ReplyDeleteYou must be doing something wrong.Check your self to see what you are doing wrong.Make sure you take good bath before you try seduce him.If he does not want to have sex with you,Just leave him alone and look for another guy.Good luck.
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ReplyDeleteHe sees you as none other than a desperado frantically seeking where & whom to pitch tents with & this gives him the vague impression you probably have plans up your sleeves.I would rather advise that you, as a matter of urgency , sidle up to him & settle your "accounts" once & for all in stead of hoping against hope which might not yield any fruitful dividend in the long run.
ReplyDeleteYeah, hope of NOT been refused INCESSANT demand for sex!
DeleteLeave now if you love yourself! Marriage is not a do-or-die affair. By forcing yourself on a man, you're inviting a nasty rejection. Follow these guidelines to get your real husband;
ReplyDelete1. Don't live with a boyfriend or man who's not your husband.
2. Don't make yourself easy to get and don't overdo it or else you will lose him.
3. Avoid being a drama queen.
4. Don't be a gold digger.
5. If you don't know how to cook well, learn it. Men love good food.
6. Don't be a lazy woman.
7. Be ambitious. Look for work now if you don't have.
8. Don't be a cheater. You shouldn't be known as a whore. In other words, respect your dignity (body) and don't have sex with every one.
9. Be respectful to others.
10. Don't say "yes" to everything, be reasonable and intelligent to "no" when necessary.
11. Don't be bossy. If you make more money than your boyfriend don't belittle him. No man likes being treated that way.
12. Don't force yourself on a man, make (not juju) or let him come to you.
13. Present yourself well, in manners, to his friends and family because they may play in influencing his decision of you in his life.
14. Don't party hard, especially, keeping late nights. Party responsibly.
15. Don't do hard drugs.
16. Have good people as your friends. You know, the type friends you keep most times says alot about you.
17. Always keep yourself clean, especially, when you're with him. Most men (like me) don't tolerate nasty odors coming from between your legs. It'll push some away from you and most men won't tell you the problem.
18. Always use condom to protect yourself from unplanned pregnancy & Sexual Transmitted Diseases (STD's) until you marry him. If you insist in doing without condom then make sure you and your partner go for medical tests. Also know if he could be trusted in terms of being faithful to you in the relation. A reasonable will be happy you protect yourself.
19. If you like or love him, show it. Men appreciate being liked or loved. Men have feelings too.
20. Know when to quit an unsuccessful relationship because you may not meet your potential good husband while you're still with the wrong guy.
21.If there's a problem in your relationship that is reconcilable then try to resolve it or make the first move. Don't always wait for a man to do everything you could as well do. A good relationship lasts if each partner's commitment is 100 percent. I rest my case. :)
You have cheapened yourself by moving into his house moreover, no guy wants to buy the cow when he gets the milk for free. Believe me, marriage with you was never the plan, he just wanted a part time lover and you fell for it. Please, move out of his house and back to your base. Start your life all over, if he really wants you, he will come after you.
ReplyDeleteThe guy has discovered that you don't really love him, the only thing you love is his sex ability, and such love will never last. Because the day he didn't sex you well, the love will fade.
ReplyDeleteThe guy is actually looking for someone that will be satisfied with having him alone as a lovely husband, not sex and hungry for more sex. You pache into his house so because of sex not marriage. Call him and ask him if he still want to marry you. better don't waste your time.
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This picture had been used for another article before. Is she the same person with the article summary that the woman made the confessional that her husband is not the father of their 1st child(girl)
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