Olu Famous this is a serious matter since me and my husband now live as enemies in our home. I've been hearing a few gossips about him sleeping with one small girl in his office, she's an office assistant to him; but I didn't believe because I give him enough sex at home.
Unfortunately, I caught him in the act live. It was like a movie when I got to his office and the guy at the reception was trying to delay me with statements like my husband is busy. I however got angry when he told my that his boss said he should not be disturbed.
I opened the door to his office and to my surprise my husband was not on seat and the office was empty. But what I saw when I opened the toilet door was crazy! My man was having sex with this girl, with both of them completely naked inside the toilet. I hit them with my bag and started shouting on them. I wished I had seized their clothes but I wasn't thinking straight.
My husband is begin me that the girl tempted him with the short dresses she wears to work and said he is ready to sack her. But I don't trust him any more because I believe he will still be seeing her even if she no longer works in his office.
I'm contemplating a divorce and my friends are in support but my parents are against it. Who should I go with in this issue? My friends who support my divorce plan or my parents?
I opened the door to his office and to my surprise my husband was not on seat and the office was empty. But what I saw when I opened the toilet door was crazy! My man was having sex with this girl, with both of them completely naked inside the toilet. I hit them with my bag and started shouting on them. I wished I had seized their clothes but I wasn't thinking straight.
My husband is begin me that the girl tempted him with the short dresses she wears to work and said he is ready to sack her. But I don't trust him any more because I believe he will still be seeing her even if she no longer works in his office.
I'm contemplating a divorce and my friends are in support but my parents are against it. Who should I go with in this issue? My friends who support my divorce plan or my parents?
Give him a second chance....he might change.
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That is it, how are sure the man you will marry to will completely free from such act, trust no human being because human being are disceitful. All you need to do is to reconcile and not divorce divorce is not the solution afterall tongue and teeth use to fight with injury yet they live together, forgive your husband and pray for geinue repentance for him so that God will keep him alway from such thing.
DeleteHow can u divorce ur husband bcos he has another woman? Keep quiet, afterall he can marry more than one wife.... Kalu
ReplyDeleteBastard Kalu son of a whore!!
DeleteYou dey craze Kalu, if the story was about a woman, you would have started a discussion on why all your sisters are prostitutes. Anofia
DeleteAre you educated at all Kalu, the way you reason most of the time shocks me, you are always off point.
ReplyDeleteSorry to say but ur husband is irresponsible to be having sex inside toilet.... May be something is wrong with him!!!
ReplyDeleteGo ahead and divorce him then that so called small girl will take over your place. You better reconcile with him to save your marriage.
ReplyDeleteKalu, you speak like one who cheat on your wife that is if you have.
ReplyDeleteWhy do you want a divorce?
ReplyDeleteMark my words immediately you leave that "small girl" will move in and where will you go?
I think it's easier to reconcile with your man than go through the rigors of divorce.
Pls dont divorce ur hubby try & reconcile, consider ur children & dere future, if u go, who is gona protect ur child, pls dont give ur food 2 som1 dat does nt dserve it (pls dont divoce ur husbad) choping of d head is nt d cure 4 headache
ReplyDeleteMy sister ur frds are not puting u in a right way,agree with ur parent,& ur so call husband sopose 2 be sack bcs such act is abuse of office.Salka Noah.
ReplyDeletefor brining in your friends into your marrage that is where you missed it all , another one is where both of meet your selfs, if it is in the party hall may be you will dance back, if it is real loved marrage which i know that love covers all sin.You have good parents listen to them , do as if nothing happend wine your man back, if not anther woman will wine him for you not that small girl you where thinking of your close friends. so think well. ugo.
DeleteGet ur divorce and move on. That man is not worth you... Ms K
ReplyDeletegood advice , then after two years again she will divorce again till she becomes a professional. by then she must have tasted half of the men in her neighborhood and become like you,permanently singly!
Deleteget back 2 ur Parent advse cz de kns d ryt 4 u n is 4 dier previlage u sustain.
ReplyDeleteI know it hurts so much 2 found ur Hubby right in the act. However, I think divoce is not the answer more especially now that ur parent didn't support that idea. I believe its better reconcilled. Your Husband will be a better Husband with just a second chance.
ReplyDeleteIf d girl is d only one he is sleepin wit then divorce shldnt come now.but if he is a womanizer my dear insist on Ur hubby using condom wit u so dat if he contacts HIV he won't give it to u.give him another chance but not so quick if he continues in dat act divorce him.for better for worse doesn't mean uwill sit and watch ur hubby infect wit incurable diseases.
ReplyDeleteHe has done you so much wrong and I know it hurts so badly and can be very difficult to forget but hey, you will just have to forgive him noni. It will take a long time for your wound to heal sha but if you search your heart, you still love him why not let this love cover his wrong. Having been caught he may even turn a new leaf. But if you waka comot for this marriage, another woman go take over sharp sharp and how are you sure you will find another man - for all you care if you find one self, he may worse off in so many ways. So please forgive your hubby - the Bible says love covers a multitude of sins. Though it is hard but please forgive him so God will forgive your own little little sins too. As for your friends, they don't love you one bit.
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DeleteThank you Anonymous (12:53)for this counsel, your wisdom will not dry up. God bless u. Yes A word is enough for the wise!
DeleteDnt listen 2 ury friends oh... Dey wen fuck ur hubby too...kfil
ReplyDeleteGive him a second chance. Trust me their is no better man out there.one time? Forgive. Whn it bcomes a routine then u will worry.
ReplyDeleteTrue talk
Deletedon't listing to ur friends , they are evil, pls listing to ur parents they can never cheat at u, so be wise my dear. He love u.
ReplyDeleteMy dear Flow u'r parents advise if u dont want 2 rigret
ReplyDeleteThat man is not normal,his office will never grow,he was not even caught in a hotel insted in the toilet lmaoooo
ReplyDeleteplease don't go with your friends, or else your friends will take over you home for you.
ReplyDeleteGive him second chance n pray to GOD to give him a chnge of hrt so dat he will not cheat on u again prayers answeret all things
ReplyDeleteYou better check your self to see what you did wrong to make this happen.Most married women realize and sit back after the marriage without giving the husband proper attention.You will be very foolish to move out because good husband are very hard to find these days.Just engage your husband on more sex.Buy porno movies and learn more styles to prevent this from happening again.Good luck to you.
ReplyDeleteHey Pals,dnt get too personal wt Kalu's statemnt,he has d right 2 his own opinion. Meanwhile,marriage is 4 beta 4 worse naw. Fine,d wife caught d hubby red handed fuckin anoda lady,it dos nt mean d woman is a total saint. She culd b caught too som day. So, my opinion is dat dey shuld settle dia differences demselves. Divorce is nt d optn 4 nw. Forgiveness nids 2 b tolerated alot in marriage n above all, u guyz shuld go closer 2 ur God. And madam,becareful,it is advised u settle ur family issues wt no 1 bt ur hubby,odawise u mite b misled tru dis medium. Good Luck. Tim
ReplyDeleteI believed that Mr. Kalu has spoken very well on this issue, Thanks Mr. KALU.
ReplyDeleteEDU.......
Go to TB Joshua for deliverance
ReplyDeleteSome Of Ya'll Don't Talk Like Christains, Why Should You Guyz Advise Her To Dirvoce Him, After Making A Vow In The Church * For Better For Worse * No Matter What Happened, It Can Always Be Resolved.
ReplyDeleteFROM ALL THESE PIECES OF ADVICE, THE CHOICE IS NOW YOURS. BUT CONSIDER THE PLIGHT OF THE CHILDREN. YOU MAY BE GIVING THIS MAN ËNOUGH SEX" AS YOU SAID, DO YOU ALSO GIVE HIM ENOUGH ATTENTION AND ATTRACTION?
ReplyDeleteUr frnds gave u wrong advice. Go wit ur parents advice. Benkada
ReplyDeleteConvert to ISLAM,i believe is hardly to encounter this problem again.
ReplyDeleteIslam my foot,u pple have said it all
ReplyDeleteKALU, U AR THE REAL NIG MAN. PLS TAK KALU ADVISE.
ReplyDeletepeople like kalu shud b ban 4rm dis platform.instead of giving a concrete advice,he was putting more petrol 2 d fire.my advice is dat giv ur husband a second chance and b more prayerful,protect ur home wit al ur stength and offer help 2 ur husband 2 overcum al dis trying times.
ReplyDeletewhy? whats the diff btw ''go away'' and ''get out''? everybody is saying don't leave him , kalu said it harshly simple. but there is really no lie in his talk
DeleteDis kalu of a guy,smtymz i tink u just say opps just 2 get pples reaction or u r just myopic in ur way of reasoning. Haba! If d woman wia 2 b ur own moda or fav sis will u b sayn dis trash?
ReplyDeleteIf u leave sorry na u loose the little bitch will have her custody of the stuff, we Africans we're polygamous in nature so gets use to it or divorce him and join ur sisters in public market so I can have my own share from u.
ReplyDeleteIf you want to listen to your friends,you are free my dear.How are you sure your friends are not jealous of your marriage.Do you know how many times they have been wishing to have him?I am sure most of them are not married so if you think it is wise,you go and divorce him and he gets another wife or do you think he will die without you?He will only miss you a few weeks and life continues.You had better wake up my friend.
ReplyDeleteMy dear pls reconcile wit ur husband and move on. Those friends of urs are not friends at all. Do you know wat their husbands are doing and they are bearing it but they want u to throw ur own away. Mind u the fact that u ave forgiven him dis time does not mean he will not do it again, it's like second nature to them. Always forgive and don't kill urself b4 ur time over men issue. They can't change.
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